ltomlinson81 Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 My ex and I were together for 4 years, lived together for 3.5 and had a dog. For the first month after we broke up we did not speak. Now, we talk almost every day. When we broke up, I moved out and now, 2 months later, he and I are going to trade apartments (long story). I also help him with the dog (who is living with him) once in a while. Most of our conversations are about the apartment or the dog, with some catching up in between. Is this totally unhealthy? Are you always supposed to ignore/hate an ex? When I read these boards, all I see are stories about people who fight and and can't stand to be around their exes. While my ex and I have a lot of issues, we have gotten to a point where we are speaking to one another with no problems. Is this normal?
Weird Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 if you are fine being around your ex and he is fine being around you then i don't see what the big issue is.
Author ltomlinson81 Posted November 11, 2004 Author Posted November 11, 2004 I don't think its a big issue. Its just that reading these forums everyday where everyone is talking about how angry they are or not speaking to their ex gets me a little confused. I am at that point at the end of NC where everyone supposedly wants to be, and it has gotten a little murky. I guess I am just venting and sorting out my thoughts. Thanks for listening.
Naive Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 I don't have a lot of exes, but I do have to say that the ones I do are great. I'm still friends with all of them. One of them is my best-friend. I picked good ones I guess. It's not weird at all. Maybe you see only bas stories because this is a board to get help, but I assure you, there are a lot of people who get along with their exes or at least are civilized around them
supermom Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 I think it's fine. Brief summary of mine: my ex husband and his wife and good friends with me and my now husband, and our kids play together! Perfectly fine if you can
love2004 Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 I posted yesterday under my user id love2004 (I am not sure how to direct you to the exact post) about my boyfriends ex and their relationship (title: helps ex and it hurts). How did you do it with your ex? I want to be a better g/f and he swears they are friends and he will not give up a friend because I don't like it. I know this is off subject, but I couldn't figure out how to get this question to you any other way. No disrespect meant to the original post.
Urban Rubble01 Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 I don't see a problem at all. My girl and I are "on a break" after 3 years. I don't know if it's over for good or not, but my we're on great terms and we talk every week or two, see each other about once a month.
dward417 Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 you know my ex boyfriend treated me the same way. Only he has another woman. So I had to let go. I am now in a relationship with another guy (much younger than me) but he is the sweetest tenderoni I have ever met. Hang in there girl. God has something in store for you.
Author ltomlinson81 Posted November 12, 2004 Author Posted November 12, 2004 Oh, although my ex and I are in contact on a regular basis, I am dating other people and my ex and I have no intentions of getting back together. I was just wondering if anyone else was in my shoes.
Bubbles Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 My ex-husband and I are best-friends. I don't have a problem with it........his girl friend did though. She acted as though he was supposed to hate my guts! She thought that we wanted to get back together with each-other and that I was a threat to their relationship. My goodness us women have issues huh? Well, as it turned out she decided ot leave him. Five years later. She really wanted me to dis-appear off the face of the earth because of her own insecurities........it's sad really because they have a little girl together. My children live with their father. He ownes his own business and is in a better "financial" position to look after them then I am unfortunatly. So I pay my child suport and visit as much as possible. I couldn't imagine not speaking to my ex. I know so much about him. How could I NOT talk to him, he trusts me and I trust him. We can talk about ANYTHING and that's a really good feeling to have somebody on the face of this lonely earth how actually cares and wants to help and listen. Good luck with your situation.......there's nothing wrong with it as long as both parties know "what" the relationship is. A Friendship. Bubbles
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