NC and Time has healed - should we be friends?

[HarleyBrown2]

My ex gf of 15 months broke up with me 2 1/2 months ago because her head was saying one thing, heart saying another (basically she's super confused, we used to bicker a lot because she wanted her cake and eat it too, GIGS, so I said I'd had enough, then wanted to make it work, but she stuck with the split and said we'd only go round in circles), been NC throughout most of it (my choice) my ex text me several times saying she missed me and could we meet up etc, but I didn't reply. We bumped into each other once at work (3 weeks ago) and had a good catch up, although she still spoke about times when we were together and I believe she said other certain things to try and make me jealous, I walked away from the catch up feeling fine! While we've been NC I've realised we're different ppl, she's a pessimist I'm an optimist, she's moaney, stingy, selfish, hypercritical and I'm kind of laid back, the thing is I reckon I'll always love the girl, because her bad qualities I can understand through her past and deep down she's a lovely girl, but just not for me! She wants me in her life and I would like her in mine, and I think very soon ill be ready for that, I'm just concerned because she's quite a game player and I fear she'll play games with me, talk about the past, make remarks, be a bit too close, like in a text she sent me the other day (it's was my birthday) she wished me a happy bday and asked what I was up to, I stated I was at work but gonna go bowling/for a meal, she wanted to know who I was going with etc, when I vaguely replied, she just said enjoy yourself and then put 4 'x' which we never do, it's ALWAYS 3, it sounds childish, and maybe it's just me reading into things, but I'm weary of wanting a friendship if things like that are happening! I also love her parents and her dad keeps texting asking about when we're gonna meet up and keeping in contact, I was honest with him and said I needed time, but hopefully soon.... Just kinda need advice, because atm I'm in a really good place and just don't want to go in reverse, anyone that has been in this situation or similar I'd really appreciate your advice/experience!

Thanks

[mammasita]

Only you can determine that. For me it's been 7 months out from a 2ish year relationship. I'm able to see him at get togethers (I'm close with my exes sisters) and I'm fine with that but I'm far from ready to be friends where we can text and call each other and just hang out without expectations or hope.....and even further from being able to see him with someone else.

 

My exes family encourages me to stay in contact with them independent of my relationship with my ex, and I do so. If you can do that, then go for it.