un explained break up

[bs25]

Ok so here goes, me and my (ex) boyfriend were together for 18months and he talked babies and marriage all the time, we are both only 20 so we are waiting, we never have arguments.

He comes back from a trip to Essex and is all over me. He won't let go of me. He says he doesn't know what he would do without me, I'm everything to him.

his parents do not like me but we went to a gig together the Friday and I thought everything was fine, I must say a few months back I know they tried to split us up as they think I am beneath him. But he couldn't do it. We get home from the gig and he wants to stay at mine and 'have cuddles' his words. He tells me his grandfather isn't we'll and it might not be long. We hold each other in bed like nothing would harm us. Saturday he wants to sleep with me but I can't for girl reasons, he arranged to meet a friend to do his car, I didn't want to go was I didn't want to sit in the corner alone all day, he said ok he comes back that evening and then goes out again to see this guy. By the time he comes back I'm in bed so he gets on his knees and holds me while I'm half asleep. We looked at £5000 holidays we booked lee evans for next year.

Sunday morning again we are all over each other, he's talking when we have a house he has named our kid he walks me to work, and visits me during the morning. I come home tired and achy all over and he calls me lazy and so I go off. He walks out my house without saying anything, I Facebook him saying sorry for walking off, he ignores me, I say I come out to his to settle it. He comes in and ends it. Just like that. He is in tears he couldn't say he didn't love me he wouldn't touch me nor look at me. No one understands what has happened. His best mate didn't have a clue. The reasons he has given are

Sunday: it's little things like my car and not doing anything

Tuesday: I don't have that spark anymore

Friday (2 weeks later) it wasn't fun anymore

But people who have me up with him since says he does still feel that way about me. There are too many contradictions. He won't talk.

He actually messaged me once yesterday saying he is depressed by hasn't said anything else. His mate met with him the day before saying he would be jealous if I met someone but he needs to do things by himself? < another contradiction

 

Please help

[Philosoraptor]

Sounds like he was having an internal struggle trying to end things and grasped onto the highs and said a lot of strong emotional things.

 

The only thing you can do right now is to take care of yourself. Don't be surprised if you find out in too long that he's starting to see someone else. As this is behavior seen oftentimes when one finds someone else they are attracted to.