hidemyid Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Honestly this is very hard for me. Me and my girl have been together almost 9 months, but ive wanted to leave for 2 of them I think... Ive had a lot of mixed emotions, and its really hard for me to be in this situation. In short, I recovered from a very bad case of social anxiety (I basically stayed inside for 3 years), and first relationship that came my way, I jumped into it, we pretty much banged non stop, she was fun to be around at first, I really thought I loved this girl. At first, the relationship was a distraction from my problems, but lately ive felt like it IS one of the problems, and ive been very anxious lately again, and it scares me. I think negatively alot about the relationship. Im annoyed by things she does constantly lately, im not giving her half the affection I used to. Im just not ready to settle down. I don't have my life figured out. I don't live stably right now. I have alot of family issues. I lose my job. I had to move back in with my parents. No college, no highschool. No license because im stupid and didn't take my begginners. I feel like i legit need to get my **** together, before im in a relationship, i thought living on my own, living pay cheque to pay cheque, was stable but it all came crashing down with nothing to fall back on, and i wanna go back to school (pre apprentice), but i know i cant focus on anything with this guilt of staying with someone i don't think i love anymore eating me up She dosent deserve to be with someone whos unhappy, and cant make her happy when im like this, I don't think I can see myself with her forever anymore. Its just she's very emotional, she has a ****ty home life, she has a ****ty support system, and barely any friends or family. Ive tried leaving, 2-3 times, and she's so consistent, she trys to run into me on purpose, she admits to making fake accounts to stalk me and run into me. She goes to my gym (and its the best gym in the city fml) and i probably have to leave that now, cause i wanna leave her. I seriously wanna be happy, but she'll breakdown and i know for a fact she will, she was being very destructive last time, and persistant on not letting me go. If i leave, i know i need space from her, and she makes that very hard. Its an unhealthy pattern at this point. fml rant done.
drallafi Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Yea man a clingy bitch after a breakup is one of the worst things. But as you said, you've tried to leave her 2-3 times already and she just won't let it go. Only way is to get a clean break and go no-contact. When she arranges meetings, just ignore her. It'll be hard especially since you don't want to hurt her feelings, but it's necessary.
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