na49 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I was asked (and have already obliged to go) hang out with my girlfriend and 3 or 4 of her close friends who I have never met in person. She wants me to meet them, so I figured I would. We are going out to dinner with them, and I thought that things would be solid. We get alone time during the day, and go out at night. All of a sudden now I am dreading this though. I am worried that I will have nothing to talk about with everyone and look horrible in front of them. I'm worried that they will all be yacking away while I sit there quietly. Any tips/thoughts on how to deal with this? I'm a little nervous.
Skyraider829 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I was asked (and have already obliged to go) hang out with my girlfriend and 3 or 4 of her close friends who I have never met in person. She wants me to meet them, so I figured I would. We are going out to dinner with them, and I thought that things would be solid. We get alone time during the day, and go out at night. All of a sudden now I am dreading this though. I am worried that I will have nothing to talk about with everyone and look horrible in front of them. I'm worried that they will all be yacking away while I sit there quietly. Any tips/thoughts on how to deal with this? I'm a little nervous. I don't know if this is going to help you at all, but sometimes if I feel like I'm going to screw up, I just watch a funny movie prior to the event. It helps me to loosen up. Also, don't place demands on yourself. Go with the flow.
NateC Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I was asked (and have already obliged to go) hang out with my girlfriend and 3 or 4 of her close friends who I have never met in person. She wants me to meet them, so I figured I would. We are going out to dinner with them, and I thought that things would be solid. We get alone time during the day, and go out at night. All of a sudden now I am dreading this though. I am worried that I will have nothing to talk about with everyone and look horrible in front of them. I'm worried that they will all be yacking away while I sit there quietly. Any tips/thoughts on how to deal with this? I'm a little nervous. Order a drink and go with the flow. Brace yourself for the "best friend interrogations".
crederer Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Even if that happens just be polite and cordial. They'll still like you. It's likely they'll be yacking about stuff that has nothing to do with you (i.e "remember when", and "so and so did this"). Just be light and it'll be fine. Make an effort to get into the conversation when the opportunity comes up and don't over think it.
Author na49 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 Brace yourself for the "best friend interrogations". What are the "best friend interrogations?"
NateC Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 What are the "best friend interrogations?" Going in, know that her friends will probably know all about you (depending on how close your girlfriend is to them). Basically, they'll ask about you and it's all harmless stuff. Mostly.
veggirl Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Why dinner? That seems so formal. Can't you guys just invite them over for a bbq/swim/party or something ? Or do an activity like bowling or mini golf? You guys are in college...I'd look for a fun activity over a sit-down interrogation dinner (they will judge you the whole time and knowing you and your girl were broken up for quite a while, they prob know a LOT of things that are half-truths)
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