JesRabbit Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Me (22) and my boyfriend (23) have been dating for a year and he has a 2yr old son. His parents like his baby mama and they invite her over to the house and even asks her to spend a night. This bothers me a lot. Well, his baby's mother knows about me and everything and his family does too. She comes over every weekend with their son and I asked my BF about why and he says it is all his parent's arrangements and not his. He claims that they have been trying to push him with her every since she had given birth. I asked him why he couldn't just pick up his son and bring him over so his parents can spend time with him and he says it's because his child's mother will not let her son over there alone. We know for a fact that she still has a thing for him and when him and I had gotten together, she didn't like it at all and still tries to get back with him. His parents like her more than me because she is the mother of their grandson. I don't know what to believe. Him and I are saving money to pay to get our own place next month. He tells me that he cannot control his parent's house and he doesn't feel comfortable with her there, but that is the only way for him to see his son because he is not allowed to her parent's house. She comes over every weekend and spends the night. The parents like her very much and when I come over, they have little to say to me, but they tried to friend me on Facebook. Should I believe my man and stay by his side or just assume the worse?
NateC Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Me (22) and my boyfriend (23) have been dating for a year and he has a 2yr old son. His parents like his baby mama and they invite her over to the house and even asks her to spend a night. This bothers me a lot. Well, his baby's mother knows about me and everything and his family does too. She comes over every weekend with their son and I asked my BF about why and he says it is all his parent's arrangements and not his. He claims that they have been trying to push him with her every since she had given birth. I asked him why he couldn't just pick up his son and bring him over so his parents can spend time with him and he says it's because his child's mother will not let her son over there alone. We know for a fact that she still has a thing for him and when him and I had gotten together, she didn't like it at all and still tries to get back with him. His parents like her more than me because she is the mother of their grandson. I don't know what to believe. Him and I are saving money to pay to get our own place next month. He tells me that he cannot control his parent's house and he doesn't feel comfortable with her there, but that is the only way for him to see his son because he is not allowed to her parent's house. She comes over every weekend and spends the night. The parents like her very much and when I come over, they have little to say to me, but they tried to friend me on Facebook. Should I believe my man and stay by his side or just assume the worse? Family has a funny way of being a roadblock... I'd believe him. He's stuck and wants to see his son and keep the peace. It's an unfortunate circumstance, but something you can work through if you talk about it and don't try to hide anything. This also depends on why she's an ex to begin with ...what happened could influence things.
Author JesRabbit Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 Family has a funny way of being a roadblock... I'd believe him. He's stuck and wants to see his son and keep the peace. It's an unfortunate circumstance, but something you can work through if you talk about it and don't try to hide anything. This also depends on why she's an ex to begin with ...what happened could influence things. According to him, they broke up because he said he never really loved her to begin with and he was tired of living a lie with her. Then I asked him why he he had gotten her pregnant and he claimed it was a drunken night. I later confirmed this with her.
NateC Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 According to him, they broke up because he said he never really loved her to begin with and he was tired of living a lie with her. Then I asked him why he he had gotten her pregnant and he claimed it was a drunken night. I later confirmed this with her. I could see why she's still into him then ...but from that, he's probably not and just wants to be with his son. Noble, to say to least considering it wasn't expected. Honestly, just be clear with how you feel and as long as you both don't hide anything (your insecurity, him not being truthful) and things will begin to smooth out. There's always the rough path of joint-custody and the ugliness that can result, but if your relationship is strong then it'll work out. Relax!
veggirl Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Your bf needs a court ordered child custody arrangement. It's not up to the mom to decide he can't have the baby alone. What is the legal arrangement? does he pay child support, what is the legal visitation? 1
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