SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I have been doing good with NC and blocking my ex from all social media but she contacts me to discuss the house we are moving out of (deposits, who gets what) and I saw her out on a date with a new guy and she texted me when she got home that night. It always starts with us saying we miss each other and what went wrong but then just goes to her saying its too late to fix and then she starts to resent me and is mean to me. It does no good, so I really want NC. The problem is, I can think of a few occasions I'll def. see her in the next 2 weeks. We like the same things, the guys who are going for her do too, so it's just a given I'll see her. How do I hold my head up high when I see her out with guys? I have tried dating but don't want to be that guy with ex issues who is trying to force a hookup or a date just to keep tabs. Tonight for instance, I want to go out but know I'll see her. It's her night off and she always goes to the spots I want to go to. I've seen the other man around and think they are just hooking up now, cos he is always talking to other girls. It pisses me off. Thanks for reading.
Salvatore85 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 Find somewhere new to go. Stop going where she is and aggravating yourself whilst she talks to other men. You don't deserve to beat yourself up like this and it's incredibly unhealthy as well. Stop telling her you miss her and treat your break up like a business agreement. Do your best to remove emotion when talking or dealing with her and you'll be fine.
Author SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 I'm fine with being curt when HAVING to talk to her, I don't even want to speak to her ever again. It's more that I find myself hesitant about going out to places and events I want to go to just because I know I will have to deal with seeing her. It's not like I can become a completely different person and stop going where my friends hang out or not go to a concert because she will be there. It's just that right now I don't have anyone and she is a pretty girl who can get anyone for the night. So I just don't feel confident rolling up solo and giving her any chance of feeling like she got the best of me. I'm trying....I do go places she's not, it just sucks to have to question doing something fun because I know I'll see her. Our mutual friends that arent completely divided want us to all hang out. I hate it.
Salvatore85 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 My ex started dating a friend of mine who was friends with all of my other friends. I did what I had to do and got in contact with some of my old friends and sparked those friendships back up. I know it's hard and I missed my friends terribly but I did what was best for me. Just go somewhere new and hang out, you will start meeting new people. You'll be alright man but you need to realize going where she is will only hurt you and then she wins.
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