I just dont know

[belcherkid]

So my wife and i have been married for 8 months now living together for a year. We have argued alot since being married and in the past month and a half alot more. We used to argue in the past about jealousy/insecurity issues, i.e she used to worry about me cheating or me doing something behind her back alot, almost on a daily basis, ive never cheated on her, i had friends who were girls and she didnt like that, she mistaked conversations i had with them as me putting them before her and flirting. she used to always call me and text me alot and pay alot of attention to me. she started a job at a resteraunt about 5 months ago, in the begining she used to hate going, always wanting to be first to leave and just didnt like it, recently in the past 2 months she really has grown to be comfortable there and now she works everyday at night, and even picks shifts up, also though the past 2 months she has grown distant, we have sex 1 mabye 2 times a week, she doesnt like kissing me on her own im always the one initiating it, she never is spontanius with me, i just dont get a strong vibe from her anymore, about a month ago she admitted to finding a manager of hers "attractive" and that he made her feel good, but she said that she loves me and would never pursue anything. Recently in the past week she also confessed that she had thought about having sex with him, again saying she would never do it and that she loves me. Last night she went out to the bar and didnt come home till 3 and didnt bother to call saying where she was at, i had to contact her through a friend. She says she feels distant because she cant just bounce back after all our arguments and that she feels guilty like shes always doing something wrong. Something isint just right though i feel like something is going on behind my back any advice as to what you guys think would be great.

[NateC]

Couples' therapy. If talking to her about things won't do it, it's time for professional advice, IMO.