Jdogg577 Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 My girlfriend of nearly 2 years broke up with me a few weeks back. It sucked a lot. She said she loved me so much but it wasn't working because we had been fighting more than we ever had (which was never) in the last few months. I waited a week and thought a lot about what she said. I really did learn a lot about myself and what she wanted from me that I wasn't giving her. I contacted her again and told her and things went really well. I spent the day with her, we kissed, and it felt amazing...like the first time we started dating all over again. Still, she wanted to wait another week to decide if this was the right course of action. Another week passed and although she couldn't stand to do it, she wanted to temporarily break up. She is scared to commit to a relationship when I'm the only person she's every really been with. She has one more year at college (I just graduated) and she said that if this were any other time in her life, she'd choose to work on things with me. But right now she doesn't want to miss this sliver of her life and she needs to really find out what she wants to see if I'm the right person for her. She insisted over and over that there isn't' somebody else and this isn't just to look for someone better and if not she'd find me, but she really wants both of us to grow as people and that she is terrified of letting me go forever. She also insisted that we remain in some sort of contact every few months and she got really upset when I told her I might have to block her on facebook Before she drove out of my life she broke down and said she didn't know if she's making the right decision. I took the high route and rather then beg for her back said that if it was meant to be, well find each other again. Now I'm as lost as ever. I know I have to move on, heal, and do what she's doing - really analyze my life and wants and see if she fits into my life plan in a few months. But it's been hard and lonely without my best friend by my side. Does anyone have any tips or anything? Thanks so much.
theonlyjuan Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I think most of us have been there, you just have to work out what makes you happy outside of relationships. What can you improve on yourself and life? What do you want to be/do? My breakup pushed me to take action on my life. I made a real effort to get my foot in the fitness industry and I succeeded. I look better than I ever had and I feel great. If I was still with my ex I wouldn't have changed a thing because I got lazy and comfortable. Thats no way to live a life and although it can get lonely, I am a happier with myself. So use this as a gift to find out and be what you want to be. You will be surprised what you discover about yourself
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