Adamis Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Brief background: Broke up with my ex last Sunday after 6 months of seeing each other. She cited that whilst she still liked me, felt that we were different people. She herself admitted that it might just be her scaring herself out of a commitment. She also wanted to remain friends immediately. Since then, I’ve tried to give her space and cut contact but she kept texting asking if I was okay and other friendly conversations, which h isn’t what I want as I still really like her. I replied as to not appear rude, but once the conversations died then I wouldn’t respond. She text me last about 2 days ago, but I just want to send one last message to let her know my thoughts and draw a line under it. Whether this means letting her go or her coming back, I need a conclusion. I appreciate I should have nothing to do with her, but I need to do this. Please advise on how to improve the message I’ve composed: “Hopefully you understand why I’ve been a bit silent for the past few days. You know where I stand, how much I like you and what I want. You mean the world to me so I refuse to cut you out of my life. However, I need some space as everything is still so raw. At present, I’m one slip in composure away from turning up at your door armed with a romantic poem, a dozen red roses and an unhealthy amount of Chinese Takeaway (her favourite food). I don’t agree that we should have stopped seeing each other as there is something there between us. But it is your decision and I have accepted that. You finally deserve to put your own happiness first, which is what I want for you” I know this doesn’t conform to male 21st century dating rules, but she needs to know why we can’t be friends at this moment in time.
Myonenonly Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Brief background: Broke up with my ex last Sunday after 6 months of seeing each other. She cited that whilst she still liked me, felt that we were different people. She herself admitted that it might just be her scaring herself out of a commitment. She also wanted to remain friends immediately. Since then, I’ve tried to give her space and cut contact but she kept texting asking if I was okay and other friendly conversations, which h isn’t what I want as I still really like her. I replied as to not appear rude, but once the conversations died then I wouldn’t respond. She text me last about 2 days ago, but I just want to send one last message to let her know my thoughts and draw a line under it. Whether this means letting her go or her coming back, I need a conclusion. I appreciate I should have nothing to do with her, but I need to do this. Please advise on how to improve the message I’ve composed: “Hopefully you understand why I’ve been a bit silent for the past few days. You know where I stand, how much I like you and what I want. You mean the world to me so I refuse to cut you out of my life. However, I need some space as everything is still so raw. At present, I’m one slip in composure away from turning up at your door armed with a romantic poem, a dozen red roses and an unhealthy amount of Chinese Takeaway (her favourite food). I don’t agree that we should have stopped seeing each other as there is something there between us. But it is your decision and I have accepted that. You finally deserve to put your own happiness first, which is what I want for you” I know this doesn’t conform to male 21st century dating rules, but she needs to know why we can’t be friends at this moment in time. That is too sweet! She doesn't deserve you... Just tell her politely that you think it's Better to not have contact with her because you have feeling s for her and she doesn't feel the same way so you need to move on and yes that includes not being friends as it usually never works out when you have feelings for that person...
Author Adamis Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 That is too sweet! She doesn't deserve you... Just tell her politely that you think it's Better to not have contact with her because you have feeling s for her and she doesn't feel the same way so you need to move on and yes that includes not being friends as it usually never works out when you have feelings for that person... Thanks for such a helpful reply Should I add that to my message or scrap it and just get straight to the point with what you have suggested?
Myonenonly Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Brief background: Broke up with my ex last Sunday after 6 months of seeing each other. She cited that whilst she still liked me, felt that we were different people. She herself admitted that it might just be her scaring herself out of a commitment. She also wanted to remain friends immediately. Since then, I’ve tried to give her space and cut contact but she kept texting asking if I was okay and other friendly conversations, which h isn’t what I want as I still really like her. I replied as to not appear rude, but once the conversations died then I wouldn’t respond. She text me last about 2 days ago, but I just want to send one last message to let her know my thoughts and draw a line under it. Whether this means letting her go or her coming back, I need a conclusion. I appreciate I should have nothing to do with her, but I need to do this. Please advise on how to improve the message I’ve composed: “Hopefully you understand why I’ve been a bit silent for the past few days. You know where I stand, how much I like you and what I want. You mean the world to me so I refuse to cut you out of my life. However, I need some space as everything is still so raw. At present, I’m one slip in composure away from turning up at your door armed with a romantic poem, a dozen red roses and an unhealthy amount of Chinese Takeaway (her favourite food). I don’t agree that we should have stopped seeing each other as there is something there between us. But it is your decision and I have accepted that. You finally deserve to put your own happiness first, which is what I want for you” I know this doesn’t conform to male 21st century dating rules, but she needs to know why we can’t be friends at this moment in time. That is too sweet! She doesn't deserve you... Just tell her politely that you think it's Better to not have contact with her because you have feeling s for her and she doesn't feel the same way so you need to move on and yes that includes not being friends as it usually never works out when you have feelings for that person...I'm in the same situation my guy didn't want a relationship" right now" we dated for 7 months he wouldn't even call me his gf so I cut contact with him completely...
loversquarrel Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Be more blunt about it. Just tell her how you feel and to call you when she's ready, and if you're available you would like to see where it goes. Make sure you add if you're available though.
Myonenonly Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Thanks for such a helpful reply Should I add that to my message or scrap it and just get straight to the point with what you have suggested? I would suggest to get straight to the point that will give you closure and kelp you sane. Immediatly go NC
Myonenonly Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Be more blunt about it. Just tell her how you feel and to call you when she's ready, and if you're available you would like to see where it goes. Make sure you add if you're available though. I would not suggest him telling her to call him when she's ready. Let her know since the beginning you mean busines! She needs space ok giver that and move on. Don't give her any hope. She might think she has you wrapped around her fingers...
loversquarrel Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I would not suggest him telling her to call him when she's ready. Let her know since the beginning you mean busines! She needs space ok giver that and move on. Don't give her any hope. She might think she has you wrapped around her fingers... I agree, hence the "If I'm available" line.
Author Adamis Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 Thanks for all your helpful comment guys! I'm gonna cut some of the message and get straight to the point I think! I would not suggest him telling her to call him when she's ready. Let her know since the beginning you mean busines! She needs space ok giver that and move on. Don't give her any hope. She might think she has you wrapped around her fingers... I'm well aware this is going to sound desperate, but what if I want to give her hope? I want to insert a loophole into this message where if she feels compelled to do so, then she'll come back to me. I know. But the heart wants what the heart wants even if it defies all logic
lalalovekay Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 We are exactlyon the same boat. After six months he called it quits at first I tried being friends but after a month I couldn't anymore. Six days ago I told him I needed space and to let me have it because I couldnt stay friends with him he replied saying to text him when im ready. Which is never I care a lot about him in a romantic way. Hopefully theyll come around if not its easy to move on with no contact.
Author Adamis Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 We are exactlyon the same boat. After six months he called it quits at first I tried being friends but after a month I couldn't anymore. Six days ago I told him I needed space and to let me have it because I couldnt stay friends with him he replied saying to text him when im ready. Which is never I care a lot about him in a romantic way. Hopefully theyll come around if not its easy to move on with no contact. Sorry to hear you're in the same predicament! Hopefully things will work out for both of us
lalalovekay Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Sorry to hear you're in the same predicament! Hopefully things will work out for both of us We just have to take it day by day. A lot have adviced me that all exes want is to see us improve so thats what im doing im improving myself. But also with the improvement we might not need nor want them anymore. Day day by day. 6 days and im doing better than yesterday (:
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