BLS Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 2.5 year relationship. Started NC 2 weeks after BU. 3 Months LC (had to see her in school) 2 months complete NC. High School Sweethearts. About a week ago I found myself thinking about my ex. I sat and compared her to my current girlfriend who totally bores me. I got extremely depressed, and began thinking about how happy she made me in comparison to this new one. She was an awesome girl, my family and friends loved her. Towards the end of our relationship I told her I didn't know if I loved her anymore (I didn't have many people to compare her to). About a month later, she dumped me. Right now, based on what I've heard people say about her, she hates me. I don't know the exact reason why, but it probably has to do with me slamming the door on her when she broke up with me. I know she's been with someone else and even though I have too it kills me. Last night I called her at 3am to no response. I sent her a long text today and got no response as of yet. Finally, I bought her candy, flowers and wrote a letter and left it on her doorstep. I'm not usually like this, but today I felt I needed to do something. I am going to cut off ties with the new girl, it's not fair to her at all and I feel terrible about it all. If my ex never responds, I HAVE to learn to be OK by myself and give myself time to get over her. Just any type of advice would help me. I will keep you guys updated.
Author BLS Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 5 Hours later and I just feel totally embarrassed. No response yet and really I don't want one at this point. Damn I'm dissapointed in myself.
GG3 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 How old are you? 18? Sounds like you just lived a life lesson most people have to learn.
NomiMalone Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 BLS, hats off to you for being mature enough to cut things off with the new girl. You've done the right thing by her, which is not always the easiest thing to do, so remember that and be proud of it. As for your ex, well, you stated that you'd told her you didn't know if you loved her any longer. Most people would run for the hills upon hearing that from their SO. It sounds like you were having second thoughts about the relationship towards the end anyway. Could it be that the feelings of loss you're feeling now are due to rejection and "wanting someone you can't have", other than a genuine love for her? 1
Author BLS Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 BLS, hats off to you for being mature enough to cut things off with the new girl. You've done the right thing by her, which is not always the easiest thing to do, so remember that and be proud of it. As for your ex, well, you stated that you'd told her you didn't know if you loved her any longer. Most people would run for the hills upon hearing that from their SO. It sounds like you were having second thoughts about the relationship towards the end anyway. Could it be that the feelings of loss you're feeling now are due to rejection and "wanting someone you can't have", other than a genuine love for her? I don't believe its due to rejection. Looking back I really loved her personality. There were things that got on my nerves towards the end. I will admit that the bads began to outweigh the goods, but in retrospect it was worth dealing with. I'll meet somebody better someday, but now I feel like I'm a person in their 30's or 40's who just lost the love of their life.
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