bummedpete Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I used to lurke here four years ago after a bad break up, back now. So here is my story after this last break up I found a great girl, this is after I was over the last thanks for the help loveshack. So me and the new girl together for three and a half years she 24 I am 30. Everything was going great for the first three years I loved her as she did me we were always very close did everything together. We did have arguments but that's normal in a relationship. Soon fast forward to Friday of last week I recieve a text while I was at work saying she is done and moving out and not to worry where she is and that she will be ok. So anyways I go into panic mode I call her she doesn't answer I text she doesn't answer. I finally do get a text message saying that she lost feelings for me and is truly sorry that she hurt me. I end up meeting her in person on Monday and she was crying as was I, she toled me that she didn't want to hurt me cause I was such a great guy to her, but that she has lost feelings a while ago. I toled her I loved her so much and I would do anything to have her rethink this. She says no it's over. Thing is her things are still at our place minus her clothes . I asked her to get her things ASAP she says she wants me to use them cause she feels bad cause I don't have much. I toled her I can't have them around cause all it is is reminders of our relationship. She says she is going to rent a storage locker and get her belongings. Still hasn't done that. I am just so overwhelmed right now I don't even wanna see her I am trying NC I don't wanna see her I am do hurt and overwhelmed right now. I need help how does someone loose feelings for you. I would do anything for this girl I loved and still love her so much it hurts. I haven't been able to eat or sleep. I'm trying to stay positive this is hurting me so bad. On the other hand why should I care so much for someone that threw me away like a piece of trash.
Philosoraptor Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Right now you need to clear your environment. If she is unwilling to come get her things you need to pack them yourself and drop them on her porch. Your feelings will heal in time, just have to take care of yourself and that starts with making your home your home again.
Soat Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Frankly, her age is a problem. At 24 (21-24 dating), people are just trying to figure out what they are, and how to be an adult. You likely remember how frazzled and disconnected your early 20s were especially compared to being 30? It's a sad truth, that age bracket can just be trouble to date.
theonlyjuan Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 18-24 is a hard age to date a girl when your older than them. They don't really know what they want and at that age you feel like you can do and be anything you want. My ex was 19 and I was 25 and I had a similar thing happen to me. If I was young and was having doubts, I wouldn't want to mess someone about who is older than me. My ex was very naive and innocent, she only ever had 1 other proper relationship and that was from when she was 17 - 19, 5 months prior to us meeting. You only get one life and being that age is meant to be the most fun, you can't begrudge them the opportunity of having fun ( By fun I don't mean sleeping around ) Most girls this young need to figure out what they want/like as they grow older. They need experiences and unfortunately you are one of those experiences that she will draw from. She may look back one day and realise how good she had it with you, especially if she dates some bellends. This is life though, learning lessons. Unfortunately for you, you came into her life at the wrong time. If she was older and had more life experience it may have worked, she could also be a completely different person by then. Go NC and find things to improve on in your life, learn lessons from this. I have learnt so much about myself since my relationship ended and that was only about 3 months ago. I feel so much better as a individual now and have really started to make progress in my life. If I can do it, you can too. I am a much happier person now, after working on myself and my life. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off, life doesn't stop because someone left you.
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