maidai Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 (edited) I have agreed to go out with an old school friend tonight. Socially! I have made it clear its not a date but we do have history from years ago when we were about 16. We have though stayed in contact and being out socially in groups since though throughout our life. He is though however divorced and has moved back here from where he lived with the wife. They have been divorced for 2 years. It IS socially as far as I am concerned definately for now. I am wibbling like mad because the similarities are un nerving bar him being divorced. Old school friend, get on well, make me laugh, relaxed around. He knows x very well and I am worried it will get back to him and cause him to have contact with me and that is the last thing I want! It will be fine won't it? I cant live my life around worrying what x will do if he finds out I am having a life! Edited August 24, 2013 by maidai
bentleychic Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 It will be fine won't it? I cant live my life around worrying what x will do if he finds out I am having a life! It will be fine and no, you cannot live like that. Doing things b/c he may not like it or may hear about it is allowing him to continue to have way too much power in your life. Take that power back and go have fun!!! 2
SunsetRed Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 GO! HAVE FUN! There's actually a book called My Boyfriends Back, written by former NY Governor Rudy Guilianis ex wife. Its about people who reunite w their hs bf and end up married. You never know..i have a friend who was a total basket case when it came to her love life and personal life. After her second divorce from the same guy, at 40, she accidently ran into the guy she dated at age 15-17. The chemistry was amazing and they got married. He's a really good guy and reconnecting w him has brought out the best in her and she's really happy.
Author maidai Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 Well I went. We had an absolute blast. We never shut up yacking from the second we meet up in a local pub to the minute we got home. In fact we had so much fun when the pub closed we moved to a club, when the club closed we caught a cab to the next town and went to another club. It was 4.30am when I fell through the door this morning It has helped. I will definately do it again but did realise I am not ready for another relationship yet and enjoyed the freedom of being able to pick up last minute and just say yes and head out. It taught me alot. It was another vital part of the healing process. There are other men out there who I can laugh with and I dont mean laugh a little but who can really really make me laugh and are fun to hang out with. Most of the attraction with X was the fact that we never stopped laughing and learning he is not the only man in the world capable of it is a massive massive boost. 3
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