Am I really moving on or am I kidding myself?

[mammasita]

My ex showed up at my house last weekend and I was surprisingly ok with it. We had a nice "just friends" visit. He didnt show up trying to get me back, he just showed up to check on me because I had been avoiding phone calls from his sisters and he was the only one who had time to come by.....

 

Anyway, I'm going to his sisters kids bday party today. I fully expect that he will be there and I'm fine with it. I'm at a point where I can go be friendly and carry on. What I wouldn't be ok with is if I saw him there with a date.

 

I feel like I'm doing well with moving on, but the sinking feeling of actually seeing him with someone else kills me inside. I know he's seeing other people but actually seeing it would devastate me.

 

Is this a normal feeling? I feel like I'm kidding my self with progress and that maybe I'm not really doing as well as I'd like to believe

[Soat]

My ex showed up at my house last weekend and I was surprisingly ok with it. We had a nice "just friends" visit. He didnt show up trying to get me back, he just showed up to check on me because I had been avoiding phone calls from his sisters and he was the only one who had time to come by.....

 

Anyway, I'm going to his sisters kids bday party today. I fully expect that he will be there and I'm fine with it. I'm at a point where I can go be friendly and carry on. What I wouldn't be ok with is if I saw him there with a date.

 

I feel like I'm doing well with moving on, but the sinking feeling of actually seeing him with someone else kills me inside. I know he's seeing other people but actually seeing it would devastate me.

 

Is this a normal feeling? I feel like I'm kidding my self with progress and that maybe I'm not really doing as well as I'd like to believe

 

If not, fake it until you make it. The best thing is you at least feel better, so if it's not "true" who cares, as worst case it's a step in the right direction! Go you!

[oldshirt]

I feel like I'm doing well with moving on, but the sinking feeling of actually seeing him with someone else kills me inside. I know he's seeing other people but actually seeing it would devastate me.

 

Is this a normal feeling?

 

Seems perfectly normal to me. I know cute, fluffy puppies get run over in the street all the time but I certainly don't want to see it right before my own eyes.

[theonlyjuan]

You are moving on I had the exact same problem. I doubted my own feelings and thought I would slip back into feelings like crap.

 

I met my ex and we chatted and it was quite nice. I didn't feel anything for her at all and could just talk to her normally. I thought my mind was just blocking out emotions...But! I saw her out a few weeks later, felt nothing again and barely even noticed she was around. I chatted to her again and it was all fine, felt nothing towards her.

 

So I am proof it isn't just a one off lol

 

I think your on your way, even if you are blocking a little emotion. Don't analyse it, just go with it

[mammasita]

Seems perfectly normal to me. I know cute, fluffy puppies get run over in the street all the time but I certainly don't want to see it right before my own eyes.

 

Bwaaaahaaaa! Perfect analogy and much appreciated.

 

I will hold this in my hip pocket.

[Mrlonelyone]

It's normal for a certain period of time to be hurt if it seems like they aren't missing you. Strangely knowing one is missed helps. No healthy person wishes their ex to be miserable, yet no normal person wants to think they could be easily replaced.

 

Just go to the party and see how you feel.

 

I can't preach getting over it. It takes me a couple years on average to get over someone and even be able to fall in love again. Unless I get a second chance I have 22 months left until I am even able to seriously fall in love again.