blazerrr Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Hey, I was together with my ex gf for 4 years straight. Suddenly she left me for another guy. I begged for a month, but then realized that that's pointless. I told her that I'm going into NC/LC since I need some time to get myself back on track. I'm on my 5th day on NC and ex GF called. I didn't answer, and she sent me message saying "Would you like to meet me?" What should I do? I would like to meet her for sure, but I think she will only give me breadcumbs and then I'm back on zero again. Should I reply: Why? Should I reply nothing? Should I meet her? Any thoughts?
Soat Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 That's a weird message. Do you want to see her? Or you could be straightforward, and remind her briefly "While it's nice to hear from you, we're over, and I asked you to please let me be so I can heal"
mammasita Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 If she left you for another guy, I would ignore her. Say nothing.
theonlyjuan Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Hmmm well your only on day 5, unless these 5 days have been a struggle? I wouldn't reply. She left you for someone else, I wouldn't want anything to do with her, if it was me.
Author blazerrr Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 That's a weird message. Do you want to see her? Or you could be straightforward, and remind her briefly "While it's nice to hear from you, we're over, and I asked you to please let me be so I can heal" Sorry, this was the exact message: "Do you have time to meet me today?" And yes, I'm struggling in NC, so does she. We have never been in NC before, we have always managed to fix our problems by talking to each other. But this time it seems that she is not interested in my THAT much. It hurt alot, so I decided NC. I guess I'll not answer. I want real actions, I'm not into silly meetup when she starts questioning me stuff like: "Are you dating someone?", "Why you don't talk to me?" etc crapola.
theonlyjuan Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 If she really wanted you back she will show it, even if you ignored her. So just stay NC but don't sit around everyday by your phone. Carry on with your life
Soat Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Sorry, this was the exact message: "Do you have time to meet me today?" And yes, I'm struggling in NC, so does she. We have never been in NC before, we have always managed to fix our problems by talking to each other. But this time it seems that she is not interested in my THAT much. It hurt alot, so I decided NC. I guess I'll not answer. I want real actions, I'm not into silly meetup when she starts questioning me stuff like: "Are you dating someone?", "Why you don't talk to me?" etc crapola. If she's struggling, have the guy she's dating console her. That's not your job anymore.
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