Dimension7 Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 So, I met this girl one month ago through common friends. Every time we are together, which happens once a week, we end up laughing, kissing and having sex. She already slept in my house and last night I slept in hers - I even met her older brother. She introduced me to two of her closest friends yesterday, as well. This thing we have keeps growing every day. I think it's pretty obvious that she likes me and I definitely like her back. But she already has said to me that she doesn't know "what's going to happen tomorrow". She ended a relationship at the same time she met me and keeps saying she is uncertain about all this, that she is not ready for anything serious with me. The problem is that I know we have this strong connection. It's undeniable. We can't avoid each other. And she treats me like her boyfriend, introducing me to her friends, family... It's a paradox. I feel like I'm so close to be with her, but also that she keeps getting away or she playing hard to get. The last thing she said to me, this afternoon, when I was leaving her home, was: "we can't kiss each other anymore". And, hours before, she also said: "you're the best kisser I've ever met, I'm addicted to your kisses". Wow. I'm so confused. I'm 22 and she's 25, btw.
BradJacobs Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Classic rebound behavior. Enjoy it for what it is. Don't invest in this emotionally. 3
truth_seeker Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Classic rebound behavior. Enjoy it for what it is. Don't invest in this emotionally. Have to agree. You're the rebound. Have fun with the sex but don't get attached.
Menina Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I'm that girl. Met the current guy I'm seeing while with my ex, everything started very sexual and casual, with the typical "I don't want something serious/just broke up" speech. Basically you're a rebound, but that doesn't kill the chances of this evolving into something else, more meaningful and lasting. Most of my friends' relationships started as rebounds and has lasted years. And as the girl who initiated a rebound I can tell you we can develop genuine feelings for our rebound guy. Just, as someone else said, enjoy everything for what it is and if you're really interested in her wait and see. But beware, she may still be having feelings for her ex and things may get confusing (that's what happening to me, specially after my ex contacted me). It can be a roller coaster of emotions and actions, after all she's dealing with a breakup. If you're ok with everything as it is, and with giving her some space to sort out her feelings and deal with her breakup, go for it, maybe months from now she develops true feelings for you. But for now, just try not to get too emotionally invested and don't have high exectations about this lasting, that way you will get surprise if it lasts or you won't get too hurt if it doesn't. 1
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