Author northdevon Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 Broke NC!! I was told by a friend that Weds night she was upset and not sleeping well at all claimed it was due to work but my friend asked if anythin to do with me she didnt reply. I got curious and unblocked her facebook page and within 5 mins she put up a facebook status "Youre the one that I want ooh ooh ooh honey :)" what does this mean?!
BC1980 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 It means nothing. Block her again. This is exactly why you shouldn't look at her Facebook page. Now, you are trying to read hidden meaning into it.
StyleOnEm Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 "You're the one that I want oh oh honey" is lyrics from the Grease song "You're the one that I want". If she really wants you, she will contact you. No use in over-analyzing and making things up in your mind when actions will always speak louder than words.
Author northdevon Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Figured I would write a one month update, to show what has happened, how I am feeling etc, for those who are going through a break up. I apologize for the length. Would like to say first, I never initiated NC at any point, but LC, but only by not blocking her facebook, though it isn't going to be very relevant to the story anyway. So, after my last post here, I went to do some things for me. I went to Barcelona on that trip and had a fantastic time, booked some gig tickets, socialised with friends. The problem with this is, she continued to pop up in my life, while I was in Barcelona, my friend who was with me received a message from her sayin 'go out and have fun why are you logged into facebook?", to which he ignored. The next day, I opened my facebook to see she had messaged me asking who was leaving my workplace she had heard someone was. I wrote back who, just one word, and she didn't reply. All good, on we go. Unfortunately, we have the same friends so I heard snippets. I was told her and Pete hadn't even got started, just not happened at all. Fast forward two weeks. I am at work, overnight petrol station, when she drives past in her car at 1am. At 3am a taxi driver who knows us both tells me that he saw her go past and that she was parked up at her exs place, a guy who hurt her. The irony is, she was told a few days before by another meddling friend that I had been talking to an ex, which I have, purely since we bumped into each other, we used to be friends anyway so no big deal. The next night I began work at 10pm, 5 minutes later in comes her car. She puts in minimal fuel, nout to make a difference, then comes to the window. I acted as my normal, polite self, professional, she tried to stick around to talk but I was busy. Off to the exs she goes. I feel a little meh but hey, I have been doing ok with it, acceptance its over really does help move things along. A day later. Our mutual friends frequent a place which does a pub quiz, and she messages me again "Are you going quiz" I reply "yes" she replies "oh ok, well have fun then". I have no problem really with her being there, we have 10 or so ppl there so we wouldn't be sat anywhere near each other and I'd have friends there to keep me going. She messaged my close friend 10 minutes later if he is going, he said yes and asked her. She replies "yeah :)" he asks if shes sitting with us and she says she is. So we get there, and it gets interesting. She is already there, and I came over and sat at the opposite end, gave a polite hello to the table, and on I went with my night. 10 mins later she jumps up, says she has to go outside to make a phone call. 30 mins later, she arrives back at the table. Ex in tow. The ex now, is a nice guy, she kept asking him to join us but he refused to, seemed to look at me to show respect then left. I know this guy too, not well, but well enough. She later was all loud, obnoxious, over doing her laughter, annoying everyone. Still, I spoke no words to her, just got on with my night, with my friends, as usual. She went outside a lot that night, smoked a lot, she only smokes in "stressful situations". Night is beginning to end. I chat with my friends and we are suddenly drowned out by "I have nobody to take to mutual friends wedding now, maybe I will have to take Pete, but I'll have to sit on his lap, no spare seats". Ignored, night goes on for me as normal. She left 10 minutes later, without saying bye to anyone. My friends remaining tell me they are glad I was strong and I must admit I felt good, and seeing her helped as a 'do I need her drama in my life again?' thing. I was told the two times I had left table she mocked my receeding hairline and my manhood, all childish. But all in all, I was ok. The following week, her focus shifted from the ex, to the friend that she asked if he was going quiz, always talking to him etc, which bugged the hell outta him, he is a mutual friend but she got overbearing, talking all the time, liking all his statuses on facebook (I hadn't noticed, until he showed me while whinging about it). We found out her ex and her had talked a couple times in person but he had told her to stop it. So, Pete, the ex, my friend. That leaves one more, another mutual friend, a taxi driver who visits my work every day, who advised me after the break up. She told him that we broke up because I am a great guy, but we drifted apart....considering she told me she was smothered, and told another friend that she still loved me but felt she would be happier single, that's odd but likely the truth to be honest. He asked her if she thought that we could get back together and she said "probably not". He told me this, and I asked him to not share anymore with me. A week passes to this Thursday, and the taxi driver tells me Amy asked him to the wedding. He told me he is going, and that he is going because it will be nice to see the guy on his wedding day, and as he is a mutual friend, he can step in should any nastiness happen. Two days later, she texts me. 'You know me and taxi driver are going to the wedding, well, we have seen a lot of each other this week and are seeing how it goes, thought I should tell you' I did not reply, no need to. We used to play a game a lot over facebook, later that night she sent me a request to play. Not getting the message. She has spent all her savings for a tattoo on a tongue piercing, which she didn't really want before she told me. So far, since we broke up, yes, I have seen what shes been up to. Yes, we have spoken but barely. I have been improving myself, and healing. She has bounced from guy to guy, and seemingly gone a little nuts. Seeing how she has turned out has helped me see the end of this relationship with someone so unstable is actually a blessing! Of course, there are still happy memories, and times where I think if only, still healing for sure, but I would like to say to anybody heartbroken right now, take a good look. At the relationship, her, and yourself. Sometimes what seems like the worst pain can be the best thing for you, you might not even know it yet. I feel like I am happy, with moments of sadness, but I am feeling a lot more like the 'old me' which I realised, I was not that person during the last 6 months of that relationship. Search yourself. You never know what you might find
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