dd79 Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Let’s see, I’ll just start from the beginning. So winter formal dance is coming up at my school in about 3 weeks. Some girl I know tells me that her friend thinks I’m cute and is wondering if I had a date for the dance. Once I find out who the girl was, I was like, damn she is beautiful. So I told her that I would go with her to the dance. The next day she gives me a paper with her number and I give her mine. I called her and we talked for a good 3 hours, we had so much in common it’s not even funny. We have great conversations and everything. All this happen on a Wednesday, Friday (Football Game Day) I go to the game with her, me and my friend pick her and her friend up. At the game we were sitting together just talking, getting know each other and stuff… everything going perfect. As soon as the game is over me and her walk to the car which was parked like 10 minutes from the school. Once we get there we had to wait for her and my friend. As soon as me and her get to the car, she leans against the car, I get her hands and I rushed her. I pulled back within a few seconds to see her facial expression; she had a BIG smile so we kept kissing and stuff… for a good 10 minutes. One the way to get house, she is holding my hand, leaning on me, then when we get to her house she kisses me again. I called her that night, again, we talked for hours, talking about what she looks for in a guy, and I look for in a girl, getting to know each other, personal things and everything. I didn’t see her over the weekend, so again we just talked and talked over the phone. She plays volleyball and she asked me to go with her to her game which was on Monday. She also wanted me to ride on the school bus with her on the way to the game, of course I told her yes, she asked me this like on Saturday night. Monday at school during nutrition and lunch, we basically kick it in the same place. But during lunch and nutrition it was weird, we were just talking like if nothing had happen, like if we were just good friends. Now, later that day, me, her, and her volleyball teammates are waiting for the school bus which was going to take us to the game. When it arrives, me and her go sit way in the back, we start to kiss and hug again like on Friday, she starts to hold my hand again, everything is cool! Then she has her game, on the way back from her game, same thing on the bus, kissing, hugging, holding hands and everything. Here comes Tuesday at school, same thing happen during lunch and nutrition. Its like if nothing happened. Now… this is what scares me, everything we have kiss, hugged, or anything, I have always been the one who starts it all off, but ones I start it she basically takes over and does her thing. I don’t start hugging or kissing during school because I don’t know how she feels about that, I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable, but then again, I don’t want her to think that I am one way in private and a different way in public. I just feel weird in school, its totally different then when we are a lone. I just don’t want her to think I want to keep us low-pro is something, I don’t care, I would kiss and hug her during school but I am too scared that would make her feel uncomfortable. So I mean, over the phone, and in private its all good, but in public its weird. Maybe it’s just me… Does this girl like me? Do you think she is like “WTF, why is he different around me in private?”? What should I do? I do like her, I feel me and her have great chemistry. All this has happen within a matter of one week.
gwennebe Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Yes I'm pretty sure she likes you. Maybe she wants you to make the first moves in public to reassure her that you like her. Girls can be strange when your in High School with the whole "peer pressure" thing going on. Why don't you just hold her hand or kiss her on the cheek in public and see how she reacts. You won't know until you try. She could be feeling exactly the way your feeling right now and wonder why you dont' act like anything is happeining around other people. YOu could always just ask her too.
dd1463 Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 Ok, things just got really weird! Well, on Wednesday, I went up to her during nutrition to have a normal conversation with her, but every time I would ask her a question she would just answer it. She wouldn’t make conversation back, so in my head I was thinking there must be something wrong with her. She was really quiet; I went to her during lunch, the same thing happen. She did not put her part to make a conversation, really quiet again. Later that night, I got an email from her and she said she was sorry for not talking a whole to me today, but that she feels that I am really starting to like her but she thinks that’s not fair because she still has feelings for her ex boyfriend. She was her with ex for 11 months; she broke up with him about 6 weeks ago because he cheated on her. She also said she was not ready for nothing more then friends. If that’s the case then why would she have no problem getting all close to me hugging and kissing every time we were by our self’s? I asked her why didn’t she turn me down every time I kissed her, she said that was the first time she was in that situation, she wasn’t sure how to deal with it. I also asked her if she wasn’t interested or if she just wasn’t ready for anything more then friends, I also asked if she saw us more then friends in the future. She answer that she wasn’t ready for anything more then friends and about the future, she didn’t know, time would tell. Am I wrong or did she lead me really ugly? This is what I think; she must be interested because she was the one who got at me. I think when she is with me, since she is not thinking about her ex boyfriend, she does like me, but when we are not together, she can’t stop thinking about him. She told me she still wanted to go to snowball and that she couldn’t wait, so I was like ok, I am just going to keep it cool. Once she told me how she felt, I stopped calling her the way I use too. She still calls me sometimes, “What are you doing?” she is always trying to make conversation with me. Now on Friday (football game day again), she calls me and ask If she could come chill at my house and then take off to the game. I don’t get it, she just wants to be friends, but she still wants to spend time with me and talk to me on the phone more then normal. Just give me your two cents, any opinions will help.
zYXAcb Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 You seem like a nice guy. There is nothing wrong with at all. I think you did the right thing about not calling her. I am not saying you shouldn't call just don't call her as often. You say you talk for hours sometimes, which I think that is really cool, but be the first to end the call. She will be wanting to hear more next time she calls or you call. Unfortunately its kind a game, as I am sure you heard. Especially at young ages. You need to seem like you don't care be a little unavailable. Add a little "bad boy" spice to your attitude. But don't be an a**h***. Act secure, don't be afraid of rejection. This is hard do, when you carry all you eggs in one basket. Look for others girls that you think would be interested in you, because there is aways "more fish in sea" Also I agree with gwennebe you should make the first move in public, after you have more private moves. If complies, in public, you know she is really for more. If you want her as your girlfriend I would wait a little longer maybe another 6 weeks, to demised her feelings of her old boyfriend. Try and show her you are better than her old boy, which I am you are...
dd1463 Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 So you do think she is interested, but maybe doesn’t see it when she is not with me? Do you guys think I should keep trying with this girl? I really do like her; it’s so weird because when we were alone kissing hugging she seemed so happy. Now she tells me she wasn’t looking for anything more then friends. My guess is that when she is alone with me she realizes she does like me, but when she is not with me, all she does is thinks about her Ex. Should I just keep trying with her and give her time? Do you guys think with time she will give in with me (That’s if you guys think she is interested)? She still calls me everyday just to talk, always wondering what I am doing... Going to Winter Formal with this girl is going to be so weird… I am going to want to kiss her so bad, and I know she will let me too, but I know I won’t because of what she told me. Every time she calls me, I end the calls pretty quick. When I am with her I always keep my distance, I don’t want to fool myself in thinking something will happen when I have no idea if something will.
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