man this is horrible.

[polycube]

i hate the fact that i feel like i didnt do something right to win her back, like i should have done this or that, that i shouldnt have begged her to stay and told her how much i loved her which put pressure on her, but let her have her space and eventually come back...i hate the fact that i thought i could replace her by having sex with someone else when it only does the opposite..

i wish i could go back to the day she left and do it all different...

i wish i would have been a better man to her..i always thought my work was the most important thing but now that she is gone i cant even work because all on my mind is her.

 

I hate the fact that i feel like i could call her and let her know how sad i am,,,and she would tell me the same,,,but i know she doesnt care anymore.

 

 

i hate that she calls me every 2 weeks just to make sure im still on the leash....and once she sees i still care....off she goes.

 

sorry to sound like a sissy but i needed to let it out

[Pocky]

It's okay. Most of us have felt like that at one time or another. It won't be easy and there's no quick fix, but time will heal and you'll be better.

[DJ_Dork]

Yes girls don't tell you this. But they keep guys on the LEASH and in control by calling them "once in awhile to say hi" . There is a solution to this, IGNORE! If a girl was interested in getting back with you, she'd call you and leave a voicemail to something like "Hey, was wondering what's up... let's go for coffee" if you're not getting anything like that in your voicemail or email and all she wants to do is "TALK" , IGNORE.

[Sukotto]

Why beg for her to come back or tell her how much you love her? If she does say yes to get back together with you would it be for the right reasons, I suspect it would be either out of pity or guilt and thats no way to resume a relationship.

 

You need to start acting more positive when she phones then, my ex still chats to me every few nights and I tell her how great everything is. Work is better than ever (lies, I've lost some motivation), friends are all ok and we're going out every night at the weekend (well we go out one night but she doesnt need to know that) and that I'm feeling great. I ask her how she's doing at that point and she then complains about work, university and her friends.

 

If your feeling super evil tell her that you can't talk long you have a date with Person X in 10 and you need to go.

[xxsilverdragonxx]

Good idea Sukotto!

 

I'm waiting around for my ex to get in contact with me. I know that when she calls or I see her, I'm gonna do the exact same thing that Sukotto does. Tell her everything is going great, even if i'm a wreck at the time. The job thing is great too. And most of all, if you are only going out with your friends once or twice a week, you aren't really lying if you tell your ex your "me and my (new)friends are having the time of our lives". I'm sure most ex's might respond differently, so don't "stretch" out your stories too much. And don't lie to yourself, thats worse than anything your ex could do.

 

I hope this helps me with the struggle of coping.

[Sukotto]

Well its not lieing its more like manipulation of the truth, I'm just exageratting things that I'm doing.

 

Why should I let her know that I'm down at times, I know she has been a bit busy with university work and down in general. I know someone will probably say i'm playing mindgames with her and to be honest I am and I dont care, simple as that.

 

Life has been getting better as time goes by, maybe in a few weeks it will be up to the level that I tell her it is at but until then I'll just give her the impression that it is. I've also been looking at a new flat in the centre of the city since I'm still living in the suburbs, thats given me alot of focus. I also befriended some of the staff members at the local gym and one of them is going over weight lifting tonight to try and build up my upper body strength since thats somewhere its always lacked.