BLo7687 Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I got this text from him a few days ago saying... "This will be my last message I ever send. I know we shouldn't talk and you obviously wanted this. Just want to say that I hope you're doing good and I have no grudges. I really hope you're happy and live a great life. You'll never hear from me again. Just take care, you always had a good heart." I've been NC for 2 months now. We were together on/off for over 2 years. Broke up in Dec and was completely over by Feb. The last time I spoke to him was in June when he got back from boot camp and I had told him we needed to stop talking for awhile because he was bringing back up old feelings/breadcrumbing me and it wasn't fair to me or his girlfriend (he started dating someone quickly after we broke up and he still with her). Of course he disagreed and tried to talk me out of it. I had gotten about 4 breadcrumbs from him in the last month and have ignored them all. Wow after feeling a little bit better after 8 months he goes and gets engaged. Seriously hasn't even known this girl for over a year! I knew everything I predicted would turn out to be true. I had a feeling that last message meant something big. I always knew he was on a timeline. I really don't know what to say. I feel kind of numb now. ****ing life LOL
jesse93 Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Don't worry about him, some one who rushes so quick to get engaged is crazy IMO you need to get to know a person inside and out until you can truly get engaged I don't think it will work out very well for him and this girl it almost seems like he texted you to make you jealous of the fact, almost like he is using this girl to make you jealous, that may be a bit farfetched but it does seem that way, worry about yourself worry about healing and moving on chances are things wont be as amazing as he's hoping they will be with this girl.
Nicoleiia Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 That message he sent you was lame. He's trying to get a rise out of you because you are staying NC. Just ignore him and don't think about it. Not to give false hope, but just because someone becomes "engaged" doesn't mean they are necessarily happy and doesn't think about their exes. Breadcrumbs given by the dumper means they are not letting go of the past either.
theonlyjuan Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Just ignore it, it seems rushed like an attempt to move on. They usually don't last, poor person he's engaged to though we might have her on here soon lol Just do your own thing and concentrate on yourself
Author BLo7687 Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 Looking back, it was definitely a lesson learned. He's 24 and I'm 26 now. I was always taking him for granted for over 2 years, never gave him a full commitment on the future (he was leaving to the military), and treated him like crap at times. Things I regret and should of done. I wasn't a bad girlfriend but I should of been a better girlfriend. I knew one day I'd regret losing him and losing him definitely makes me want to appreciate my next relationship. But it was partially his fault too as he did a lot of messed up things in the end. I did fight for him but he eventually chose another route. But you seriously send me this message just days before you get engaged. Get out of here man. I know he's always been the codependent can't be alone type. He was always pushing for a bigger commitment from me but at that time I wasn't ready for all of that. Mind you the girl he's with now he met on a dating site, is already divorced, has a kid, and she's only 22. I don't even think you fully know someone within a year! What's the rush?! It's a serious slap in the face to me.
Author BLo7687 Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 Guys I'm definitely crying my eyes out today and I haven't cried about him in awhile. I was just starting to feel better about everything too. Never thought the year would end up like this. Worst freaking year in awhile. Everyone has been telling me "Don't worry you're going to find someone better and you're going to be happy again. It wasn't meant to be." FML
loversquarrel Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I will say two things. 1. He shouldn't have sent you that text. It was a ridiculously dramatic thing to do. 2. I don't understand the logic here. You broke up with him, and now you're crying because he's engaged? You turned him away several times and you're crying about it? It's his decision, shame on him if he's not happy about it. Seems like he really isn't that into her.
Author BLo7687 Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 I will say two things. 1. He shouldn't have sent you that text. It was a ridiculously dramatic thing to do. 2. I don't understand the logic here. You broke up with him, and now you're crying because he's engaged? You turned him away several times and you're crying about it? It's his decision, shame on him if he's not happy about it. Seems like he really isn't that into her. We were on/off for over 2 years because the 1st time around I broke up with him. He was heartbroken. We didn't get back together until several months later when I started realizing he was always the guy that's been there for me. But the 2nd time around back in Dec, he broke up with me and it was mostly due to the things I listed above. Tried to fix things but he chose another path. What's done is done. To be honest, he was everything I never knew I wanted. I never want to take anyone for granted again.
loversquarrel Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I misunderstood. I thought you broke up with him. That's rough. I still say he shouldn't have sent you that text, all he did was hurt you, but I think in some subtle way he is trying to tell you he doesn't want to be engaged. Sounds messed up but I wouldn't be surprised.
Author BLo7687 Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 Like I said, he's always been on a timeline. Plus being in the military, they want to get married asap. Funny all the things he was telling me back in June is absolute BS now. He seems happy. I never want to talk to him again.
hotpotato Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 He may be in love. Or he may be rebounding like a mutha. Either way you have no control. Seems like he's trying to get under your skin. Do your best to ignore him and not give him a reaction. (HUGS)
Salvatore85 Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I'm very sorry you're going through this but you're sort of getting what you deserve. It seems like he was devoted to you and you broke his heart and then when you guys got back together I'm sure that was something that ate him up and he couldn't let it go, most likely the reason for him dumping you. I say you deserve this because its a valuable lesson that you've learned and many others who have a great partner should learn as well. Stop looking around the corner when what you have in your own home is great.
Author BLo7687 Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 I'm very sorry you're going through this but you're sort of getting what you deserve. It seems like he was devoted to you and you broke his heart and then when you guys got back together I'm sure that was something that ate him up and he couldn't let it go, most likely the reason for him dumping you. I say you deserve this because its a valuable lesson that you've learned and many others who have a great partner should learn as well. Stop looking around the corner when what you have in your own home is great. Agreed. Lesson learned. Like I said, I wasn't a bad girlfriend. I never cheated and I was always loyal. My biggest regret was never giving him my world and I should of. I swear karma really hit me hard this year. 1
Author BLo7687 Posted August 27, 2013 Author Posted August 27, 2013 Umm...so he got married. Courthouse. Craziness. This reeks of desperation. Somebody convince me I dodged a bullet here?!
turkey21 Posted August 27, 2013 Posted August 27, 2013 Umm...so he got married. Courthouse. Craziness. This reeks of desperation. Somebody convince me I dodged a bullet here?! In my opinion, if he cared enough to send that text message to you then I feel he rushed himself into this. Divorce rate is quite high.... You dodged a bullet but for some reason I don't think he's done with you quite yet... I see a drunk text/call in the future. In reality, I got together with my NOW ex bf 5 years ago less than a month after getting out of my 5 month relationship and never looked back, never sent a message saying hey i'm not texting you anymore. The man sounds very confused. Hope they have annullments where you live! lol
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