Ronen Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Hi everyone... My boyfriend broke up with me almost 9 months ago. It still hurts. We've had contact once and awhile and about 5 or 6 months ago he told me he still had feelings for me, but that he was confused. I chose to cut contact at that point because I couldn't just wait around while HE figured out what HE wanted. He emailed me a couple weeks ago and I didn't respond back for 2 weeks. Lately he's been on my mind a lot. I miss him and it's hurting all over again. I want to see him and tell him that I miss him. I don't know if he's seeing anyone or in a relationship? He very well could be! Is it ever too late to tell someone how you truly feel. Do you think I should?? We haven't spoken in over a month. We rarely have contact. Buy yet I still feel he's the one for me and I never wanted things to end. What should I do??? Let him go? Or spill my true feelings?
MiuKiel Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Hey there, I can relate to what you're going through in your head.. a huge mental/emotional struggle. I did that for a few months and when I finally decided that ti'd be better for me to contact my Ex, I did with my head held high, and got so badly burnt by her. It hurt, but it did solidify that she was done forever and I finally knew the answer that I'd been dying to find out for awhile. ... I'm a sucker for love.. a true Idealist about it, even after being hurt, so i'd say that if you need to end the "torture," fine out how he really feels, but if you're rejected and things don't work out, you gotta realize that it's over. I almost let the feelings come back up 5 months after I confronted my Ex, but that would've been the worst thing for me AND for her. She already knew how I felt back then and wanted nothing to do with me. I knew she wasn't going to change. Plus from "their" view, you'll start to look... stalker-ish. I know I looked that way, after looking back on some of the well-intentioned but poorly judged decisions that I made. Remember, you live once. Do what your heart tells you to, but don't become a stalker!!! Hope this helps.
Author Ronen Posted November 11, 2004 Author Posted November 11, 2004 Hi, It does help to hear another point of view. I don't want to look like a stalker, but I don't want to bottle up feelings and then wonder "what if" down the road. I wonder if he still thinks about me or has any feelings or whether/not he's moved on with someone else? Those thoughts plague me day to day. But yet if he wanted something...shouldn't he be the one contacting me? Am I not getting the hint?
MiuKiel Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Just from being a guy, If I wanted something again, I'd have initiated contect sooner that what is going on in your scenario. Since the thoughts are with you daily, I'd say to go for broke one last time. Call him up and let him know how you feel. Put it all on the table just one last time, but then promise yourself that this won't happen every month or something like that. I say go for it. What's the worst that could happen? If he says no way, your mind is cleared. If you get a second chance, remember, not everyone is that lucky, and cherish it and try your hardest to make it work.
chicothechimp Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 I could see that making sense... one last time spill your heart... but you might experience a river of pain, too. Life awaits you... don't wait indefinitely for or you will postpone healing! CHICO
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