Should I let him know I am still willing to workk things out?

[Kaiten]

Kaiten, of the Spinning House of Wisdom, has appeared!

 

Listen to me Lalalovekay...I know you are young. And being young isnt bad. It doesn't mean you dont know what you want. So what if you are young? None of us here can say whether any of this is worth it or not. (My personal opinion is that it isn't, because you sound like a great girl)

 

Someone said earlier that "what is meant to be will be" That couldnt be further from the truth. Allow me to get spiritual here, if I may. Your destiny (whatever that may be) is yours for the taking. You can either sit back and wait for it to happen or you can decide that you want it. Do you actually want it? I am not talking about him right now...Do you want to be the person you were meant to be? Do not think that it will be easy. Do not think that it will just happen on its own.

 

Love is worth fighting for. I can tell you as a soldier, that if 18 is old enough to fight and risk my life for this country that I am old enough and capable of real, genuine love. And a healthy relationship. I will be damned if someone tells me - or you - that its not worth it because you are too young. (by the way I am not 18)

 

You are the only "you" to have lived your life. No one has lived it before you, and no one will live it after you. You can dream as big as you want. Both in love and in life. Big dreams mean more vulnerability. Big dreams can hurt, my friend. But thats okay. Just as long as you have the courage to play again. Do you?

 

As I mentioned before, I don't think that he is worth it. At the very least, not as he is now. You cared a lot about him (though I dont know the whole story) and he broke up with you. Please stick to NC. Not in a prideful way, but he will have to show you that he has changed. I know its hard, trust me. But its for the best. I would not steer you wrong.

 

You are unique and special and you are worth the love that you give. Dont settle. I think you have the courage to be vulnerable again. Just remember that any kind of love takes work. Even love that is "meant to be"

 

Best of luck to you, Lalalovekay. I must disappear now.

 

*POOF*