prophecy1983 Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 NEED ADVICE AND HELP. MY GIRLFRIEND BROKE UP WITH ME ON OCT 9 OF THIS YEAR. AT FIRST SHE WANTED TO SEPARATE BUT I DID NOT TAKE IT AS EASY SO THAN SHE SAID THAT SHE WAS SORRY FOR CONFUSING ME BUT SHE THOUGHT THE BEST THING WAS TO BREAK-UP...THE REASON IT HAPPEN CAUSE WE HAD MANY LITTLE AGRUEMENTS AND DISAGREEMENTS AND I HAD A BAD TEMPER PROBLEM..SO ONE DAY I HAD TOLD HER THAT SHE HAD TO LEAVE WITH MY TEMPER PROBLEM AND THAT I WAS NOT GOING TO CHANGE..SHE ALSO DISLIKE THAT I WAS JEALOUS CAUSE SHE HAS A LOT OF MALE FRIENDS AND I ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW WHERE SHE WAS AT, AT ALL MOMENTS..AT ONE POINT ALSO I WAS CURSING HER OUT AND SAYING I WILL KILL MYSELF AND ALL TYPES OF STUPID STUFF. SO AFTER THE BREAKUP I CALLED FRIENDS AND HER COUSIN TO SEE WHERE SHE STANDS AT AND SHE GOT REALLY PISSED AT ME FOR DOING THAT AND DID NOT REALLY WANT TO TALK TO ME BUT I CONTINUE TO CALL AND I NOTICE THAT SHE WILL GET OFF THE PHONE REALLY SOON AND JUST BE BUSY ALL THE TIME..SO THE LAST TIME I CONTACTED HER WAS LAST WEDNESDAY AND I ASKED HER ALL OF THE QUESTIONS ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP ONCE AGAIN. SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE HAD WANTED TO BREAK UP WITH ME BACK IN AUGUST BUT STUCK OUT CAUSE WE HAD, HAD A GREAT TIME AT HER FAMILY REUNION AND THOUGHT IT WOULD WORK..BUT THAN SHE SAID THAT ONCE I SAID THAT SHE HAD TO LIVE WITH MY TEMPER SHE DID NOT SEE THAT GREAT FUTURE THAT WE HAD ONCE PICTURE TOGETHER AND IT WAS NOT ONLY BECAUSE OF THE TEMPER BUT ALSO BECAUSE OF THE LITTLE ARGUMENTS WE HAD..SO I ASKED HER IS IT POSSIBLE FOR US TO GET BACK TOGETHER AND SHE SAID RIGHT NOW NO AND THAT THERE WAS A SLIM POSSIBILTY THAT WE WILL BE TOGETHER AGAIN..SHE SD IF ITS MEANT TO BE THAN ITS MEANT TO BE..I ASKED HER IF SHE STILL LOVED ME AND SHE SAID THAT SHE CARED ALOT ABOUT ME BUT THE SAME AMOUNT OF LOVE WAS NOT THERE. LAST WEDNESDAY SHE WENT TO A BASKETBALL GAME WITH SOME GIRLS AND GUYS AND SHE HATES BASKETBALL CAUSE SHE HATED WHEN I WATCHED IT ON TV..SHE IS HAVING A PARTY TOMORROW BUT I WAS NOT INVITED TO THE CLUB CAUSE SHE SAID ALOT OF GUYS ARE GOING TO BE DANCING WITH HER AND SHE NOWS MY TEMPER PROBLEM..I ENDED THE CONVERSATION WITH HOW MUCH I LOVE HER AND HOW MUCH I MISSED HER THAN ASKED HER TO THE MOVIES BUT SHE DECLINE CAUSE SHE SAID SHE DOES NOT THINK IT IS A GOOD IDEA RIGHT NOW. I HAVE NOT CALLED HER SINCE AND I NEED TO KNOW IS THERE ANY CHANCES WE WILL BE BACK TOGETHER CAUSE I CAN NOT GET OVER HER AND MISS HER A WHOLE LOT..AT ONE POINT WE NEVER SEEN ALONE AND WAS ALWAYS TOGETHER.
Leikela Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 I think you need to take a good look at your post again. You have temper problems, have jealously issues, are controlling, and caused many arguments with your ex. Do you think that's maybe why she doesn't have the same love in her heart for you anymore? Basically you pushed her away to the breaking point. The only way you're going to get her back is if you look deep down inside yourself and figure out why are you so insecure. Then correct your insecurity and hopefully your behavior will change along with it. You can't be all those negative things and expect her to stay with you. If you expect to have any kind of healthy relationship in the future, the change has to start with you. Think about it.
Author prophecy1983 Posted November 11, 2004 Author Posted November 11, 2004 I have looked at all of those issues and honestly got help on all of them..and it made me become a stronger man on the inside and outside and i relized all of the mistakes that were made by me. what is it that i have to do to prove it with the one that i love. and is there a chance i will ever win her heart back??
luvgod42 Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Hey, You don't "win" a person back...first of all. But in order for her to come to realize you were a good person, and that she lost big time (if that is was really happened) it takes 1. maturing 2.developing as an individual 3. dating other people 4. time So in the mean time focus on YOU. Please seek counseling for your issues.
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