NoFuxGiven Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 My Bf and I have been together for 8 months. Lately our relationship has been going well. I haven't had any psycho outbursts our made any false accusations since my last post. About a week ago while we were hanging out and watching TV he started to talk about his feelings. He told me that he loved me and that he wants to be with me forever and that he knows that i love him but he doesn't feel that i am in love with him. He said that he feels that he could lose me anytime. I have no idea what he meant by that and i didn't ask. I just assured him of my feelings and told him that i didn't plan on going anywhere. Fast forward a few days he finds out that a big project he had coming up for work was cancelled. He was really looking forward to this because it would have been a big lump sum check. Ever since then he has been acting er.....distant, i guess. I try to talk to him about what's bugging him but he doesn't really want to talk about it. He's been real snappy lately and it seems like whatever is bothering him he is taking it out on me. I told him that and he apologized and said that it didn't have anything to do with me or our relationship that he's just stressed about his finances. That was like 3 days ago and he is still acting weird. He isn't calling or texting me. I usually wake up to his texts but its been 3 mornings of NOTHING. If I call or text him then he will respond most of the time. I told him i miss him today and he said he misses me too and i responded "i cant tell" he didn't say anything back. When i say "i love you" he says it back but he is acting so cold and now my mind is going into "what if" mode. I'm thinking of all kind of scenarios thats going on. I'm feeling like I'm losing him and i don't know what to do. I want to give him space and be supportive and not be the clingy, emotional girlfriend but its so hard when he's not really communicating with me. I seen him for about 15 minutes today and before i left he gave me this dry ass hug and said he would call me later (no kiss or i love you like usual). UGH! this is irking the hell out of me. I'm so scared that he is going to leave me. What should i do?? Give him his space and wait it out?? or try and talk to him??
Benz5 Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Wow this is exactly what I'm going through right now except I don't know why he is upset. In your case you know it's works related. I sometimes becea the clingy emotional girlfriend but I realized that guys like ours need some time to heal on their own and think their problems out. Some people like to be independent in certain matters. I think you should try to have normal convo with him me tell him you love him and that you are there for him. If he doesn't respond. Then simply wait. And if he loves you, he will find peace and come back to you. What is meant to be will happen.
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