My boyfriend broke up with me, and said I was obsessive. was I?

[kat1012]

My boyfriend of 8 months recently broke up with me. He is 29, I am 21.

 

We never argued except one month ago, which I told him to play less phone games, since I came all the way to see him and it made me feel my effort is not respected and appreciated. And he got pissed saying I didn't need to come, how I had ruined his nice weekend by saying all this, he can do whatever he wants and I should not date. (I just got fed up he sometimes would focus on his phone games and ignored me for an hour when we meet like 2-3 times a week, and that one time I spent so much effort on planning his birthday night, and he decided to play with his phone and watched TV and ignored me for like one and a half hr while I dressed up nice and didn't even try the cake I made him, which eventually gone bad before he could take a bite :/) I didn't talk back since I didn't want a fight. The next day we were all normal. And the following two weeks, he initiated contact. He knew I was having a bad week that time I told him to spend less time on his phone games when we hang out. And he asked me if I am feeling better and asked me out for a few times. I thought we were okay. I also asked him out for two times afterward and he sounded okay with it.

 

Things started to change when he had this interview coming up. He became distant though he still replied when I texted him. He once asked me for some opinion on whether he should get the job he knew he won't like. I gave him a detailed one. I thought it was stress. But even with his interview drama gone, we Haven't contacted for days, then I texted him like once every 1-2 days. He would reply my "how are you" but not the ones about us, like "is everything alright between us?" "when are we seeing each other". I called him up during the weekend asking if he wanted to meet and that's when he broke up with me.

 

He said "I don't think we should keep seeing each other. We are comfortable with each other but it doesn't mean this is going anywhere...(blah blah blah) We Haven't met for quite a while anyway (two weeks, I asked him after interview he wanna meet up and he turned me down) and you are too obsessive with this relationship."

 

Was I really obsessive? We saw each other 2-3 times a week Sometimes he asked to meet up, sometimes I asked to meet up but I never demanded seeing more than 2-3 times since I have a busy life. And every time I traveled an hour to go his place or area, he never really came to where I live anymore. I offered help when he needed or asked for it. I would sometimes get upset at what he did but I never showed it to him, I just bitched to my friends. I let him go drinking with his friends, only when he drunk called me at 4am and woke me up then I would bitch a bit the next day.

 

Or is it because of that time I told him to spend less time on phone, which possibly led to the break up? Before that "fight", he even suggested going camping and looked for a tent once, and after that, he didnt mention it anymore. He also got laid off one month ago, but he seemed completely fine with it since he hated the job and was thinking of quitting anyway.