For those who have or had work relationships...

[Dude420]

Have you, or your partner ever decided to have a cold attitude towards him/her at work, you know, to avoid any sort of gossip or work problems perhaps?

 

I've had this problem recently where this girl I'm going out with suddenly went cold on me. She had food at my home the other day, I brought it to work and just wanted to let her know that it was there, that's all.

 

However, when I wanted to tell her, she didn't even stop or even try to look at me, she just said a very cold thank you. I understand that we have to show professionalism at work but come on, nobody was around us and I wasn't even trying to flirt with her. Yes, the thank you sufficed, but it was the way she said it that didn't click with me.

 

For the record, we're both into each other emotionally and physically.

[StanMusial]

Have you, or your partner ever decided to have a cold attitude towards him/her at work, you know, to avoid any sort of gossip or work problems perhaps?

 

I've had this problem recently where this girl I'm going out with suddenly went cold on me. She had food at my home the other day, I brought it to work and just wanted to let her know that it was there, that's all.

 

However, when I wanted to tell her, she didn't even stop or even try to look at me, she just said a very cold thank you. I understand that we have to show professionalism at work but come on, nobody was around us and I wasn't even trying to flirt with her. Yes, the thank you sufficed, but it was the way she said it that didn't click with me.

 

For the record, we're both into each other emotionally and physically.

 

Discretion is key... keep in mind she may have only seemed cold because you're used to much warmer treatment in another setting. I wouldn't worry about it.

[miss_jaclynrae]

Never cold, but very very VERY discreet.

[Dude420]

Thanks I figured as much. When we started going out she would still talk to me at work, but just recently we've made it officially exclusive. I wonder if "the talk" has something to do with her increased discretion.

[D-Lish]

I recently dated a superior from work. Only my close friends and upper management knew because we had to disclose it to avoid any appearance of favoritism, etc.

 

We were friendly and talkative at work until we started dating- then we went in the opposite direction and almost avoided one another. This was mainly to keep other people out of our business.

 

Until we figured out how serious we were going to get, we just kept our relationship on the down-low.

 

I wouldn't worry about her behaviour. Gossip can be a terrible thing in the workplace. I'm guessing she just wants to keep her personal business to herself.