newmoon Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I really believe in karma and that people will get back what they give... but, has anyone actually known this to happen with their ex? did your dreams of them getting dumped/hurt by a new partner actually come true?
Author newmoon Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 Why is a person who dumped you deserving of karma? Are they supposed to just stay with you to make you happy? Anyway, I don't think you're aware of what karma is. It's not the universe spanking you for being naughty. And you can't will unfortunate events on other people, that's just nuts. thanks for your unhelpful response... adios 1
templeofmax Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 How old are you? Seriously...if you feel that way for someone you were intimate with and to someone you said you 'love' then you did not love them. If you did, you would leave resentments, as hard as it may be, and wish they were at peace with themselves, happy, etc. Yeah, I am angry at my ex's behavior post breakup, I think she has been ungrateful, etc and have said that she will regret her decision cause I think she will. However, I do feel for her because her insecurities were too much to handle inside the relationship and I hurt her even more without realizing it as I wasn't as patient as I should be. It just became too much. So, I might be angry and sometimes say things I don't mean, but I do love her still, so NO, I don't wish her to suffer even more that she does already with her issues. I wish her to find her inner peace, and yes, to maybe realize with change, we deserve another chance, but I don't want her to be 'unhappy' even if I feel hurt by her actions. 1
Myab23 Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 well...as a dumper i feel like karma got me...i cheated and dumped my ex, he was very upset, tried to get me back. then i met someone who i actually really loved and vowed to never cheat again, which i haven't and he ended up cheating on me. i always think that it was karma, getting me for how careless i was with someone else's feelings and now it was my turn to feel the pain....and i still have't quite come to peace with it to this day. ex doesn't know about it, but im sure he might get some sick delight in it? who knows.
Misfortune Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Idk about about most recent ex, her karma is probably yet to come in the far off future. I know my karma has caught up with me with the way my most recent relationship ended. We dated for 2 years, got married in Jan '13, she cheats on me with a girl, realizes she's gay, went off to live with her gf, wants a divorce and completely ignores me. I did ditch the girl I was with at the time(was an online relationship so I guess I didn't think much of it) for my most recent ex. I figure that all my reckless treatment of others feelings, has finally caught up with me. I've since apologize to all of exes that I've wronged. You don't know what things are like until you experience them yourself. I know all of my previous exes are doing quite well now. Three have found their "soul mates" and one of them, has a child. Sometimes the karma we're hoping for happens even when we're unaware of it. I feel that you should be rewarded appropriately, for your actions. If you did bad, you should get a just punishment. If you did good, then you should get a suitable reward. I don't wish bad on people just because they dumped me, it all depends on the circumstances and how it was done. I hope my most recent ex gets what's coming to her for her lies and adultery. Idk why it's so hard for people to be straight forward and say they want out rather than waiting until they have someone else lined up. When they have someone else, they suddenly have the courage to treat you like crap and abandon you without a second thought. 1
iouaname Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I don't know about karma, but my ex is dealing with a girl who won't commit to him and is really hurting him. Oddly enough, I don't feel good or happy about it. I just feel bad that he traded in me for that...
Author newmoon Posted August 24, 2013 Author Posted August 24, 2013 This whole thread seems caddy. we're not talking about golf, you probably mean catty and it doesn't make me a bad person to wish bad things for my ex. not because he dumped ME, but because he did bad things in the process, like lie/cheat/steal. i don't want him to suffer, but it'd be nice to know that in some form he didn't get what he wanted, especially relationship-wise
todreaminblue Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I really believe in karma and that people will get back what they give... but, has anyone actually known this to happen with their ex? did your dreams of them getting dumped/hurt by a new partner actually come true? i think the idea of karma is out in the atmosphere not part of a vengeful heart.......i might have wanted my ex back at one stage but....i never wanted to see him hurt.......just isnt in me i guess what actually happened to my ex....is he gave up smoking,gave up drinking, gave up drugs, is getting his license soon, treats me with more respect i feel than he has ever treated me...recognizes everything i did for the kids....for him.......and is with one woman now instead of many....i wrote earlier i didtn change my ex or couldnt i actually realized later i so did....lol........i am glad that all i ever wanted is what he see now as being a cool way to live.....i feel that there isnt really karma..i just believe if you were always good in a relationship when you truly loved that person completely when you are gone......they are reminded of all the little things they missed while you were around and the biggest kicker is when they relaize you will never be there again that way for them...that is...when they know.....you love someone else....they feel a bti haunted maybe....deb
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 we're not talking about golf, you probably mean catty and it doesn't make me a bad person to wish bad things for my ex. not because he dumped ME, but because he did bad things in the process, like lie/cheat/steal. i don't want him to suffer, but it'd be nice to know that in some form he didn't get what he wanted, especially relationship-wise Auto-correct FTW. Your rebuttle was funnier. To each is own I guess. 1
theonlyjuan Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 As far as I know my ex was honest and did what she thought was best, she was right to do so. I don't wish her any harm or anything. I think if she got dumped for the first time in her life, it would open up her eyes. She is young and very naive. I know she will one day realise how hard I tried and what a good boyfriend I was. It always takes a girl to go out with a few knobs to realise what she had in the beginning. By then it will be too late, I don't want her back anyway.
PootieMandela Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I love when people say "I don't want (insert thing here) but... That "but" invalidates everything that comes before it. No one said you were a bad person. But a hell of a lot of energy is wasted on wishing for these kinds of things that will probably never happen. Better energy is spent learning from your relationship mistakes and investing in yourself and your future. We ALL have much to learn about implications.
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