blindhope Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 It's been 7 months since my ex walked out on me. There was no fighting, or warning. One night she "needed" space and weeks later I found out that meant sleeping with a teenage patient of hers(Shes a therapist @ adolescence rehab clinic). I was destroyed at first. Not being able to eat or sleep. Then I realized what was going on and it made it tolerable at first. Over time the heartache and pain subsided and I was able to move on. I met someone else, someone whos been really good to & for me. But it's unfair to her. I cant move on yet. I have no logical reason why. But one reason is we had 8 years together, and built something that although can be torn down in a few weeks can't be replaced in a new relationship. I lost my best friend and girl I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with and all in a matter of moments. I hate how she holds some much over me after all this time. I wish I could just hate her. But to those in the initial weeks there is hope. It gets much easier. I still think about her constantly, but I have been able to enjoy myself. I enjoy life again. I still miss her and what we had, but I look to the future that time will heel. It has too. If only my heart was only on the same page as my brain.
Misfortune Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 I can relate to your story, I was also left by my wife for one of her patients(she's a drug abuse counselor). We were only together for 2+ years but I enjoyed all of it and it sucks to not have her around anymore. It's almost 3 months since we broke up and I'm doing ok emotionally. My brain still thinks back to thoughts of our relationship everyday. It's fine for me though since my heart isn't in it. I know that eventually the thoughts will fade and I'll move forward in life without thinking about her. I feel the same way about losing the person that I thought was my BestFriend and life partner. It hurts to know that you have no control over the demise of your relationship and to think that years of bonding with her, can be brushed off so easily. It hurts because you cared and 8 years is a lot to get over. Let the new girl know that you're not ready for something new yet. You can't get the same relationship that you had with your ex but, you probably can get something much better than what you had before out of a new relationship. Just give yourself time to heal properly. 1
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