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In this day and age, can people really have a lasting relationship? It seems like most people are always exchanging their relationship for what they assume is better. Or they always go for someone who doesn't necessarily want them as much as they want that person.

 

Women seem to always go back to the "A-holes" who didn't treat them right. On the other hand, "nice" guys complain about girls always wanting jerks, but they're usually the same guys who eventually treat their good girlfriend like crap because they want to chase a girl who poses more of a challenge.

 

What is the reasoning for all of this? All I can come up with is that it's human nature to want something that you can't have entirely.

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Most people are quite happy with their lives. They are out living their lives and having fun.

 

The others spend their time whining and moaning and will always find something new to complain about. They are the loudest and the most annoying, but they're not the most numerous.

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Most people are quite happy with their lives. They are out living their lives and having fun.

 

The others spend their time whining and moaning and will always find something new to complain about. They are the loudest and the most annoying, but they're not the most numerous.

 

That's quite an assumption right there.

fortyninethousand322 Established Member

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That's quite an assumption right there.

 

Not if you doctor your study on the topic. :p

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In this day and age, can people really have a lasting relationship? It seems like most people are always exchanging their relationship for what they assume is better. Or they always go for someone who doesn't necessarily want them as much as they want that person.

 

Women seem to always go back to the "A-holes" who didn't treat them right. On the other hand, "nice" guys complain about girls always wanting jerks, but they're usually the same guys who eventually treat their good girlfriend like crap because they want to chase a girl who poses more of a challenge.

 

What is the reasoning for all of this? All I can come up with is that it's human nature to want something that you can't have entirely.

 

 

 

IN DEFENCE OF GIRLS WHO GET A HOLES

 

i dont know about wanting to, conditioned to go for a holes might be a better explanation.....

 

 

the fact is a holes dont normally come across as a holes when you first meet them......from personal history

 

 

they say what you need to hear notice i say need.....

 

 

they say that they are the guy for you through charm through knowing what the woman wants....they say exactly that.......

 

 

i am actually always attracted to nice guy behavior or even that calm quiet voice ....thats what attracts me

 

 

i go for humantitarian type guys.......so you think how do i fidn the ahole humanitarian who seems to love to help people..especially kids....its not an easy thing to do ...i guess i am lucky to be a rare breed that does find humanitarian a holes......

 

 

!. i find out they are a humanitarian .......

 

2. i give them a chance

3. i fail to find out that they did humanitarian work as community service court enforced........right around this time i find out that they have issues

 

 

4. i go ok.....i can help them if anyone can i can.......peopel change mature

 

 

years go passed

 

 

doesnt change........they have theri good points but they are not right for me

 

 

nice guys dont need help they are perfect the way they are and a lot of women thought that the perfect nice guy was the a hole with a nice guy mask that charmed them....lots of women fall in love with an a hole and think that hey i can help him see what's right.....they cant .....those women end up really hurt...they give it their best shot.......

 

 

nice guys are ace.........my grandfather was a nice guy...both of them my teachers were nice guys every oen fo them , the guys who have been good to me were actual nice guys.....each one of them calm quiet beautiful

 

 

i promised msyefl never to fall in love with an a hole again...and i can honestly say....even being a humanitarian....i dotn want to have to help a partner change i need to make soem changes myself i woudl liek to feel supported in that change....i want soemone real.......a real nice guy this time prefrrable not court enforced humanitarian work...so a guy who doesnt have to do it because he was a dickhead and failed to follow rules.....but a guy who is truly together and able to help others...........and ill wait until i find him........that nice guy...no charming for me...no coldness...ignorance, unfaithful ro violent men for this little black duck...not a guy i need to teach hwo to treat em he shoudl already know.. really really knowing who i might be with is key

 

 

and i will find a nice guy one day, hopefully he has plans to see africa....i am going to feed the kids adopt a hundred of them lol...ok just three no four.....ill just move to africa sounds more realistic......i never meant to fall in love with bad boys......i am the last one who ever should....because i do believe people can change.....i have to....deb

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Woggle Established Member

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People these days seem to like taking crap for some reason. I don't get it but that is the way of the world these days.

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Most people are quite happy with their lives. They are out living their lives and having fun.

 

The others spend their time whining and moaning and will always find something new to complain about. They are the loudest and the most annoying, but they're not the most numerous.

 

I wonder how true this is. Is there a silent majority that actually have happy relationships and doesn't spend all their time complaining on message boards?

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