Jiminy Cricket Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 so heres the thing, i want her back, she knows, i know, everyone knows. i plead, begged, cried, threatened, played mind games and just about every trick in the book to get her back. no of the s**t works, i know i was being irrational the months following the breakup. she told me this, the more i push the more she doesn't want it. the more i don't give her space, the more she doesn't want it. tells me that she left it open for me for us to get back together, but i pushed so much that i drove her crazy. that i didn't give her time to think about her decision, and what she really wants, that i didn't give her time to miss me at all. says she needs time to find forgiveness and heal. be out of sight, and out of mind. then she said something that really got me excited, "if you let me go and give me space, then thats when i know you're ready...." i'm going to do just that. i'm going to disappear off the face of planet, no social networks, no texts, no phone calls. i know this will drive her crazy too, because in the past when i ignored her for days, she would cry and hit up my phone non-stop. i was being selfish about not giving her space, and didn't take her feelings into consideration. we truly care about each other, and even though her love for me has gone, i'm hoping with time she'll find it again. i like to think our love is never over, only set aside. 1
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 You're also being selfish by using NC as a mind game. So you don't really respect her at all. it's not a mind game. she told me to use NC. i'm respecting her space for once and going to listen to her.
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 You,re using NC as a form of manipulation. You should be using it to move on and for yourself. look. she told me if i listened to her before, and did what she said. things would be different. i know my girl, she wants us to heal from the breakup, work on ourselves during this time apart. she's hoping when we reconnect in the future we'll be ready for a relationship.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 it's not a mind game. she told me to use NC. i'm respecting her space for once and going to listen to her. Sorry man, nothing at this point is going to work nor will it probably work anywhere in the future. It's over and anything else you do after this is wasting time and not moving forward. 1
Omei Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 You beg and push and plead and she says no, so so creates a "if you leave me alone then..maybe" deal sounds like she said what you wanted to hear so you'll leave her alone, and she now knows that whatever she has going she knows your a call away secretly waiting as her backup. 1
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