Told my MM I loved him, now I'm Confused by him???

[guest]

I told my MM that I loved him. His response confused me very much, so I decided to end it. Well, it seems that I have seen him more(we work together) since I told him and we had our talk, then when we were "together".

 

I don't understand this.....What the heck is he doing? I was really hoping that he would avoid me, which would be very easy because he works in a different building in our office complex, but has done the exact opposite. Any advice on what he is doing or thinking???

 

Thanks

[Owl]

My guess is that he's very confused too. He must not have anticipated that response from you, and isn't sure how to handle it. My advice? Tell him to get lost. Ask him to stay on his side of the building and to let you get on with your life. At the same time, he can get on with his (hopefully by coming clean with his wife and start either rebuilding his marriage or getting out of it.). Next...look for a decent guy you can trust and plan on a future with...not some decietful jerk who you KNOW is more than willing to sneak around on his wife.

[supermom]

He knows he's got you strung along and he loves the attention. His ego is boosted and he thinks he's the s***.

 

This is not a healthy relationship for you to be in. You will always be #2 in his love life, and when you see how he treats #1 (his wife) why would he give you more?

 

Good luck, but if it was me I'd move on

[joodee]

Oh God, that sounds like me. I keep breaking up with my MM, saying those things..."I can't see you anymore till you get in therapy/take action/tell your wife and file for divorce..." etc. And he somehow gets back in winthin a week, with "I miss you" "I still love you" and then the "here, let me give you a hug, you're upset, how can I make you feel better" and we wind up in the sack (and duh, he comes prepared each time I attempt to talk and break up with him)...it's manipulation, I tell you, these men are soooooo insecure and don't want to let go and deal with themselves. Get out of the cycle before it drags on with no signs of change, cause I speak from experiencing exactly what you're experiencing (like you, mine works in the same building as me, but in a separate department, and not always on the same days).

 

It may feel like he really wants you, but nothing will change. Get out now.

[Patiently waiting]

Yes, I agree.....RUN as fast as you can from this man! I am going through this right now! Read my saga on MM's wife finally found out. Could life suck anymore than it does at this moment? I don't think so.......

[I Survived]

YES, I agree with PW!!! RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!