jorgon1022 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 This is a long post guys so I appreciate it you guys reading it in advance. So I just finished talking to the girl I like yesterday. I wanted to get to the bottom of everything before I moved on and asked her to be honest with me. She was and she told me that she really does like me but that shes not emotionally stable to be in a relationship and that she needs to start going to therapy again before dating me or anyone else. Her reasons seem valid. She also told her friend that the reason that she was moving was for me but she seems to tell her friend more things than she tells me. She contradicts herself as well. She says that me and her clash all the time but days earlier she said that she felt that i brought out the best in her. She says that she needs a man that will stand up for himself and tell her when he agrees or disagrees with her but when I do she gets offended and says that I judge her. I can honestly say that I have never yelled at her, never argued with her and I simply always express my opinions to her. I have been the nicest guy to her. Something that bothers me is that she tells her friend that she gets jealous of other girls but she shouldn't since shes not dating me. All in all, it seems like she gave me mature reasons for not wanting to date right now, but I was wondering if you guys could tell me what you think and if I should wait for her or just move on? We both agreed that it would probably be best if we eased off on talking as much and I told her that I agreed with her and that if in the future I was still available or interested in her then we could try again. I appreciate the help.
Philosoraptor Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 No, you shouldn't wait for anyone. In this case she is very unstable and insecure. Likely will lead to a lot of issues with whomever she ends up with. 2
Author jorgon1022 Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 So by moving on and showing her that I moved on and dating other chicks, does this mean that she will see what she had and maybe regret it ? I guess im asking because when a girl sees that she has you in her hands, she takes you for granted and thats what I felt she was doing. Should I just allow her to work on her issues and if in the future im still available and she wants a second chance just give it to her if shes eventually stable?
Philosoraptor Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 You shouldn't do anything with her in mind. If you move on, do it for you. If you date other girls, don't do it to make someone else jealous, but to truly get to know them. If you do it just to make her see what she lost it would just be hurting a new girl out of your own selfishness. If for some reason you two cross one day and are both single, matured, and want to try again... great. If not, you'll have moved on anyways so it won't matter. 2
Author jorgon1022 Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Good damn Philosoraptor. That is so true. lol Thats a very good way of looking at things. Its crazy how when your emotions get involved you dont think clearly. But thank you.
ChooseTruth Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Never wait on a woman. NExt thing you know she'll be with somone else that she's not conflicted about. Also you probably seem weak right now just for knocking at her door, giving her all the power. Take your power back. Get angry (enough to make you pull away), grieve, move on. You know: denial(now), anger(action), grief(experience the loss), acceptance. 1
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