School open house for divorced parents

[M30USA]

This is a matter for the lawyers because no matter how you present this issue to your XW she will never see it your way.

 

You pointed out that it is "her official time" to have the kids at these functions. So you are intruding. It would be nice for her to give up one hour an share it as in a school event. Nice is not required.

 

You removing one child and bringing him away from the activity area and go to another part of the building was wrong. You were wanting shared time, then take it to alone time. Ask for an inch and take a mile.

 

I remember your scene name though not your story. Was there an affair by either one of one?

 

No affair. But she repeatedly accused me of having one. Even in divorce court. They kept referring to an affair I was supposedly having but the judge saw it was a fabrication (along with all the child abuse fabrications which even CPS saw through). Looking back, I am beginning to think SHE might have had an affair because she told me several times that she felt she might need to look elsewhere or that if the opportunity arose she might get with another guy.

 

I always assumed school functions were general events where both parents had access to kids' presence. She has primary custody, therefore she has "parenting time" for every school day. This shouldn't mean I never get access to them. I would actually challenge the idea that she has exclusive possession during events under her time.

Edited October 16, 2013 by M30USA

[UpwardForward]

No affair. But she repeatedly accused me of having one. Even in divorce court. They kept referring to an affair I was supposedly having but the judge saw it was a fabrication (along with all the child abuse fabrications which even CPS saw through). Looking back, I am beginning to think SHE might have had an affair because she told me several times that she felt she might need to look elsewhere or that if the opportunity arose she might get with another guy.

 

I always assumed school functions were general events where both parents had access to kids' presence. She has primary custody, therefore she has "parenting time" for every school day. This shouldn't mean I never get access to them. I would actually challenge the idea that she has exclusive possession during events under her time.

 

Seems like an excessively controlling/domineering threatening woman. (my loss for better words).

 

Ignore her fabricated b.s. reasons for shutting you out. Show up just to let your children know their father is there for them, and interested. It will be remembered.

[RonaldS]

Not sure what state you're in, but in my case, there is a clear distinction between physical and legal custody. My XW has physical custody, but we share legal custody. That means things like school functions, games, etc are sort of 'community time'.

 

I'm fortunate. My XW doesn't try to interfere in me spending time with the kids. But some of that is because she knows better than to put me in a battling mood. You might want to take a look at your custody agreement. If it's not sufficient or you deem it unfair, get a lawyer and file a motion to have it amended.

[M30USA]

Not sure what state you're in, but in my case, there is a clear distinction between physical and legal custody. My XW has physical custody, but we share legal custody. That means things like school functions, games, etc are sort of 'community time'.

 

I'm fortunate. My XW doesn't try to interfere in me spending time with the kids. But some of that is because she knows better than to put me in a battling mood. You might want to take a look at your custody agreement. If it's not sufficient or you deem it unfair, get a lawyer and file a motion to have it amended.

 

We are "joint managing conservators" but she has the right to determine primary residence and to make educational decisions.

[road]

We are "joint managing conservators" but she has the right to determine primary residence and to make educational decisions.

 

Whamo there is it.

 

She determines educational matters. Your presence is a moot point because what ever you hear there as a parent you have no legal standing.

 

Though I agree it is small of her to be petty at a school function. Specially when you have no say.

 

There are MC's that believe in NC between the parents after a divorce for many reasons even when there are kids. There are many ways to co parent with the ex spouses not having direct contact.

[M30USA]

Whamo there is it.

 

She determines educational matters. Your presence is a moot point because what ever you hear there as a parent you have no legal standing. Other than that we both are given rights to attend school events, participate in events, and have access to all educational info.

 

Though I agree it is small of her to be petty at a school function. Specially when you have no say.

 

There are MC's that believe in NC between the parents after a divorce for many reasons even when there are kids. There are many ways to co parent with the ex spouses not having direct contact.

 

You do not understand. By "educational matters" I merely refer to the fact that she decides which school they attend. Other than that we both have right to attend school events, participate in school events, and have access to all educational info.

 

Do you have any experience or knowledge of custody laws? You sound like you're using intuition rather than legal knowledge and don't know basics about joint custody.

Edited October 16, 2013 by M30USA

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Imo, it All depends on parental decency and how much they love their child/children.

 

My grandson's parents do not live together, yet as much of a controller his mother is, she would not exclude her son's father from parent meetings/school functions.

 

That's what makes for a happy well-loved child regardless the circumstances they were born into.

[M30USA]

Imo, it All depends on parental decency and how much they love their child/children.

 

My grandson's parents do not live together, yet as much of a controller his mother is, she would not exclude her son's father from parent meetings/school functions.

 

That's what makes for a happy well-loved child regardless the circumstances they were born into.

 

I determined that my ex-wife and ex-MIL value control more than anything else in life--including their own children, spouses, and even God. This is becoming more evident and was a primary reason for our divorce.

 

Thanks for all your input guys.

[road]

You do not understand. By "educational matters" I merely refer to the fact that she decides which school they attend. Other than that we both have right to attend school events, participate in school events, and have access to all educational info.

 

Do you have any experience or knowledge of custody laws? You sound like you're using intuition rather than legal knowledge and don't know basics about joint custody.

 

You are entitled to feedback on how the kid is doing in school. You used educational matters. A very broad term. Essentially your wife can request class changes, and anything else and you can not prevent it. Based on what you have said.

 

You have to lawyer up or let it go. Complaining here is not going to help because we have no legal standing and your wife is only going to listen to a judge.