Please help...I do not what to do...

[darhma]

My boyfriend and I were together for 4.5 years then we broke up but still kept getting back together for about 1 year after that. The reason we broke up was I wanted to get married and he wanted to get married and have kids. I do not want children. Finally I said no more we are not seeing each other at all. Then he went off to Ukraine to find a Russian bride. ( see http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t49856/) He ended up going over there and thought he met the one. Well less than 2 months later he calls. Mind you I have not contacted him since he came back except for 1 email.

 

He called and told me the Ukraine thing was over. He also said he had unreasonable expectations and nobody is perfect. Said the chemistry and love we had is irreplaceable and wanted me to go out to dinner with him. I told him I wanted a real commitment or there was no point. I also said that he needed to figure out what he has and what he wants and come to some understanding in his mind. He said he does want to get married . However he has said this in the past and I have yet to see a ring. Well upon my friends recommendation I called him the next day and said I would meet him for dinner. He called me back and said he was busy this week but we could get together next week and he would call me to firm it up later.

 

Usually when he wants to see me he makes the time. One of my friends says he is trying to figure out what he wants. Another friend says I am an idiot and should not even bother to see him if he doesn't just bring a ring at this point. Am I being an idiot or should I see what he does. I am so confused.

[bluechocolate]

You have already split up over this issue - if you do not want children then you shouldn't "allow" him to enter into a marriage with you. He should not give up his desire for children anymore than you should give up your wish not to.