Guy asked for exclusivity and then told me he's not ready for a serious relationship

[HappyLove]

"WHATTTT???? Asking for exclusivity and then not ready for a relationship??? What happened here???"

 

You gave it up too easy. This is a stranger you met online. These jerks will tell you ANYTHING to get in your pants. What you need to do is give some time to watch someone's ACTIONS. Build trust and a relationship don't make it so easy for them. You want something serious and lasting so let a man show what he's really all about. This may take several months. I've met online guys who promised the world for months then disappeared. So you HAVE TO give it some time. I never slept with these guys and was extremely hurt so I can't even imagine how you feel. But it's taught me to protect myself and my heart and you really have to take what a stranger tells you with a grain of salt. In the meantime you need to be dating others and finding your true love, forget this guy. If you choose to see him casually I hope your dating others as well because this one is most likely just looking for a booty call. Good Luck!

[spiderowl]

Guys usually want a girl to be sexually exclusive with them, even if they are sleeping around. They want to be sure you are 'pure' and that they are the only one with a chance of sex with you. It is a primitive thing, wanting to make sure they've fought off competition for the female. However, it doesn't mean that they don't want other females. They still want to diversify if at all possible.

 

Yes, it's another double standard! It's best not to assume that a guy seeking exclusivity is really interested in you for a relationship. He's interested in sex with you, but probably hasn't thought further than that. Real exclusivity involves a relationship that lasts and where both are sexually and emotionally exclusive to each other.

[darna]

Thanks again everyone! I appreciate your empathy and compassion. Now I need to look after myself. I am going to do no contact from now on and take my time to heal.

[HappyLove]

Thanks again everyone! I appreciate your empathy and compassion. Now I need to look after myself. I am going to do no contact from now on and take my time to heal.

 

 

 

Good for you! You are a very strong and smart woman! Good luck in your search for love!

[emva07]

Too much crazy too soon. That or someone else grabbed his interest. Or combination of both.

[whatever123]

Are like dogs who chase moving cars.

The minute the car stops moving the dog stop barking and chasing the car.

 

Yes I am comparing the chase to a moving car.

Men are hunters by nature.

 

That is why he is still single.

He enjoys the chase more than the catch.

[emva07]

That is why he is still single.

He enjoys the chase more than the catch.

 

LOVE this. So true for sooo many ppl.