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Should I send my ex boyfriend this letter through facebook?

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It-is-what-it-is. Established Member

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Claire.

 

The best "gift" you can give him is to honor his request for NC and for you to work on yourself.

 

Your writing makes you sound very desperate and stalker like and frankly there is nothing that will kill any feelings faster an the way you are behaving.

 

No calls, texts, letters, messages, gifts, email, snail mail, virtual, real life, sign language, smoke signals...nothing.

 

100%of your energy should go into you getting better, getting stronger, getting your self worth back.

 

He is unprepared to see any "message" you try to send.

 

It will appear a Stalker like desperate attempt to keep him. You must not do this.

 

If there is any chance...at all...you have to go NC. Show you are a grown up and can do it.

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Claire.

 

The best "gift" you can give him is to honor his request for NC and for you to work on yourself.

 

Your writing makes you sound very desperate and stalker like and frankly there is nothing that will kill any feelings faster an the way you are behaving.

 

No calls, texts, letters, messages, gifts, email, snail mail, virtual, real life, sign language, smoke signals...nothing.

 

100%of your energy should go into you getting better, getting stronger, getting your self worth back.

 

He is unprepared to see any "message" you try to send.

 

It will appear a Stalker like desperate attempt to keep him. You must not do this.

 

If there is any chance...at all...you have to go NC. Show you are a grown up and can do it.

 

Thing is this is all my fault. This break up is all my fault. I keep breaking NC through FB and why doesn't he block me. I've send billions of messages because literally if you knew what I did to him in the past (I never cheated dont think that) you would give him the reason. Why hasn't he blocked me off FB and keeps seeing my messages? Its been 5 days of non stop messages and yes it is stalkerish and I know in my right mind it is a stupid thing to do and I should stop but he just keeps me there. I don't have him on fb also

Babolat Established Member

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Dear (ex-bf name):

 

Forgive me for everything I did. I'll leave you in peace. Thank you for always being a good boyfriend even though things changed. You know that you'll always have a friend in me and neighbor. I wish you well and I hope everything with your music career works out. I know you'll make it.

 

1) No

 

2) NO

 

3) NOOOOOOO

 

4) Kill Facebook please!

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clairedunham Established Member

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No i didnt send that letter

It-is-what-it-is. Established Member

It-is-what-it-is.

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No i didnt send that letter

 

Good job.

 

You can only control you.

 

Control yourself and stop obsessing.

 

Get some help for your issues.

 

Good luck.

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Thing is this is all my fault. This break up is all my fault. I keep breaking NC through FB and why doesn't he block me. I've send billions of messages because literally if you knew what I did to him in the past (I never cheated dont think that) you would give him the reason. Why hasn't he blocked me off FB and keeps seeing my messages? Its been 5 days of non stop messages and yes it is stalkerish and I know in my right mind it is a stupid thing to do and I should stop but he just keeps me there. I don't have him on fb also

 

Claire, defriend and facebook block him. NOW. Stop this destructive cycle you're in. It's not all your fault, it really takes two people's issues to end things.

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Claire, defriend and facebook block him. NOW. Stop this destructive cycle you're in. It's not all your fault, it really takes two people's issues to end things.

 

I have deactivated it to then activate it again. I don't have him on FB but can send him messages . If he doesn't want to deal with me why hasn't he blocked me? why does he keep reading my messages?

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I have deactivated it to then activate it again. I don't have him on FB but can send him messages . If he doesn't want to deal with me why hasn't he blocked me? why does he keep reading my messages?

 

Cause he doesn't care about you. He's not thinking nearly as much about you as you are about him. Any way why do you care anymore? Let it go.

 

Oops saw your defriended him. Now block him as it works two ways. stop torturing yourself. Let yourself grieve and go through the steps to recover.

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Cause he doesn't care about you. He's not thinking nearly as much about you as you are about him. Any way why do you care anymore? Let it go.

 

Oops saw your defriended him. Now block him as it works two ways. stop torturing yourself. Let yourself grieve and go through the steps to recover.

 

you don't know that ok? now I would like some reasonable explanation to his. Why doesn't he block me? If he doesn't want to deal with me why does he keep reading my messages?

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I think we are going to be seeing a lot of Claire... This is going to be a rough ride :(

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clairedunham Established Member

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I think we are going to be seeing a lot of Claire... This is going to be a rough ride :(

 

Im sorry :(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

mtnbiker3000 Established Member

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Don't be sorry. We are all here for the same reason. Please just listen to what you are being told. It is all true. Do you think people are telling you these things for the f*ck of it? Nope! We don't want to see you continue the destructive path you are on. It will hurt!!!

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you don't know that ok? now I would like some reasonable explanation to his. Why doesn't he block me? If he doesn't want to deal with me why does he keep reading my messages?

 

Love, with all respect...there is nothing reasonable about you. You are suffering from extreme obsessiveness. The only thing you want to hear is for people here to co-sign your insane thoughts and behaviors.

 

Keep doing what you're doing. Suffering has become your comfort.

It-is-what-it-is. Established Member

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you don't know that ok? now I would like some reasonable explanation to his. Why doesn't he block me? If he doesn't want to deal with me why does he keep reading my messages?

 

Why doesn't he block me?

 

Because...I think...he is afraid of how much you are swirling. I think he is afraid for your health.

 

Perhaps he is afraid of you.

 

No matter what you think. You need to stop swirling.

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Love, with all respect...there is nothing reasonable about you. You are suffering from extreme obsessiveness. The only thing you want to hear is for people here to co-sign your insane thoughts and behaviors.

 

Keep doing what you're doing. Suffering has become your comfort.

 

That was harsh but it helps

hinatticus Established Member

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you don't know that ok? now I would like some reasonable explanation to his. Why doesn't he block me? If he doesn't want to deal with me why does he keep reading my messages?

 

He doesn't block you cuz he doesn't care. He gets his ego stroked from reading your messages. He's trying to be nice. He's lazy. He doesn't know how to block. He's madly in love with you and his way of showing it is by not blocking you on fb. Ok the last one was a joke, but seriously who cares?!?!? It's just fb. When my gf left me she didn't block me at all. I defriended her. We're back together and are fb friends again but that's beside the point. Point is, who cares?!? You definitely shouldn't waste your energy on what he's thinking or doing.

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He doesn't block you cuz he doesn't care. He gets his ego stroked from reading your messages. He's trying to be nice. He's lazy. He doesn't know how to block. He's madly in love with you and his way of showing it is by not blocking you on fb. Ok the last one was a joke, but seriously who cares?!?!? It's just fb. When my gf left me she didn't block me at all. I defriended her. We're back together and are fb friends again but that's beside the point. Point is, who cares?!? You definitely shouldn't waste your energy on what he's thinking or doing.

 

I read your story hinatticus. It gives me hope. It is really hard to focus on anything. I can't wait to start work so I'll get my mind off him. He just has me :/.

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clairedunham Established Member

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I know Ill get there

Soat Established Member

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You block because you care. So the fact that he hasn't shows he's really not concerned about you post-breakup behaviour.

 

So, have we agreed to NC? None at all?

 

Well said. But Claire isn't done torturing herself yet. Hopefully it won't be too long before she lets herself cry it out and start the healing process

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