NaradaHB Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 I been through alot this last couple of months between me and my girl. We been together for 4 glorious years a I dont regret one minute of it. Last year I went off to school in South Carolina and she went to FAMU I told her that I will be attending FAMU next fall to play football. When I was up the road I told her that I dont like it up here and I want to be closer to you she agreed. This summer was terrible for us because people thought that we would be together forever. I was going thru alot with my pops and my family, also school because I didn;t have enough transfer credits to leave ASAP, and that I couldnt play ball because I had gotten hurt. With all these issues that I was going thru I still managed to keep everything bottled in. One day I told her I said "Baby I need you more than anything right now" she told me that "I dont know how to deal with those problems" at that point and time I felt betrayed because a strong man shoudl have a strong woman. So I was like aight then I have to take care of these issues so I think that we should seperate. She was like why???? I explained it I thought she understood I even told her clearly "THIS IS NOT A BREAK UP" she was like aight she told me that she dont want to see other people I was like aight thats cool too, and that she would like for us to talk on the phone everyday I was like aight ( All this occured in August). Everything was cool until she called me one day and said "I'm not kissing your ass no more". I was like what you mean and she was like look I gotta do what I have to do for myself and I was like what you mean???? she said she started to go thru some changes in her life that she has to adjust to. I kind of regret telling her about the seperation thing, we then started arguing about petty stuff. Since september we aint been together. However, all her friends tell her that she is very wrong for doing what she is doing and she needs to stop it it's been to long now. Her friends call me and tell me things about how she feels she said she Still love me but she just want to be by herself right now. I can respect that, but on the flip side of things theres some guy up there whom she suppose to be friends with that likes her and he takes her we she has to go in the car. She told me that there just friends and she dont like him like that I respect that. She tells her friends that she dont want to leave me alone like talking on the phone, IM,. Me and her mom are very close now she calls me "Son" her momma dont know whats going on if she finds out shes gonna be crushed, so as all her aunts and female cousins who admire and respect me. I feel like I want to leave her alone but my heart is still there. I just dont want to lose her like this honestly. Because she told me "I'll never find another like you" so why keep looking when you could fix things between us this is how I see it. She knows that I could be with girl I want to it was said to "Why is he waiting on me, I got tired of waiting on him". But then again she confuses me by saying I dont want to stop talking to you I dont get it. For christmas I was going to surprise her with a promise ring do you think thats a good idea???? And do you think that we would get back together by the holidays cause I really miss her and I love her so much to just leave it alone. I need a lil help Holla Back,
bluechocolate Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 For christmas I was going to surprise her with a promise ring do you think thats a good idea???? No. You don't buy rings for ex girlfriends. If you get back together before Christmas then maybe. It sounds like she's getting a little of her own back. You wanted to separate for a time & she called you on it. "Why is he waiting on me, I got tired of waiting on him". Don't play games with each other, just talk to her. Tell her what you want and ask her what she wants. Don't settle for a trial separation if what you really want is to be together.
moimeme Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 Don't give her a promise ring. Can you get back together? I doubt it. She sounds pretty defiinite. If you have told her you love her and want to be with her and she has said no thanks, then it's time to move on, I'm afraid.
chicothechimp Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 it is not likely you fromwhat you have said... I just think that she realized that she did not want to goninto this long term with you... that is likely very hard to hear... but from what you have said it is the truth perhaps. I suggest one last email... let her know that you are avilable should she need someone to go to in an emergency... but unless you want to go through the BRUTAL/MESSED UP things called "let's just be friends", I suggest you press on and face the tremendous pain and hurt that is part of the healing, friend... just keep this in mind... the pain does ease up at some point... but the heart still patters for 'what was' as an echo in our hearts... Chico
Author NaradaHB Posted November 12, 2004 Author Posted November 12, 2004 She called me last night and she said that she just need to blow off some steam and that she's not trying to hurt me or anything it's just that she's going through alot right now. And that she is gonna spend about $400 on me for christmas but she always come through for me this is why I was considering just giving her the promise ring after all. She said that her love for me isn't lost its just that she has to do this before we get on with our lives together basically. And she calls me every night she put it like we arent broke up broke up but more like best friends that have sex basically.
Author NaradaHB Posted November 12, 2004 Author Posted November 12, 2004 Thanks but she hit me up last night saying that she still loves me and everything and that she's coming down next week for Thanksgiving break. She always call me when she's on the road and says "I Miss You". I think she's confused because everybody in her family knows that I'm a good man and she dont really want to lose me do you think?. This is why I'm just trying to bear with she never came out and told that it she didn't want me to say nothing else to her ever again it's just that I cant be sincere with her. When I talked to her last night I told her that you forgave your friends for the mistakes and things that they put you through right. And I said you still love me right she said "Always I LOVE You". So I said aight then whats so hard to forgive what I put you through in the past then forgive and forget. I think that shes handling the hole situation very childishly. Because her friends did nasty and hurtful things to her. One of them dropped me her number on monday if I were a nasty dude I would give her a call Do you think that she will realize that damn she had a good man ????? If so then When???????????
Author NaradaHB Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 There are a lot of people that have something to say about or relationship like her friends this is where I think that all the problems are coming from basically. So she called me and told me dont believe what you hear baby what you dont hear me say out my mouth dont believe which I think if a good answer. She was mad about what was said and straightened them out. She's coming down for Thanksgiving break this weekened and she said she miss me Do you think that it will work out ????? Should I take her back ???? If she ask to stay should I let her ?????? And should I have sex with her ?????
Author NaradaHB Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 Yo know nelly song with jahiem "My place". The part when he says I heard a friend that told a friend that told a friend of mines that you was thinking that we should do it one more time. When I asked her was this true she told me something like that she told me she miss me and she loves me very much. She comes down on Tuesday do you think I should show her love ????????
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