stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Hi just need to get this off my chest. Recently discovered my gf who is my whole world has been cheating on me with different men. Confronted her and she admitted it all to me. She says its just sex and she still loves me and doesn't want to lose me but its something she needs to get out of her system. She's asked me for a few months to sort herself out then she'll have her head back in the right place. I am going to do it as I can't be without her. But its so hard knowing men are using her. So there you go,.that's my sad pathetic story. Damn it why is life so cruel and painful?
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 OH man! Thats harsh. She needs help. What do you want to do?
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 12 years and you didn't marry her? If he did, I get the feeling the title would read "wife of 12 years....." I'm sorry man, thats terrible. But I have to correct you, men weren't "using" her, she completely allowed it. Personally? I'd run for the hills as I don't think her disgusting behavior will change. 1
Author stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 We never wanted marriage or kids. hi Claire. I'm just trying to drag my sorry butt through each day. I said all she had to do was promise me that its only sex and she's not looking for love. She said that's all it is, just sex. I also said that she had to tell me if she's meeting a guy so I know that if something bad happens I'll know its with a man. otherwise I'll just think she's at work or with friends and if the worst ever happened I'll not think to tell people she was seeing a guy.
Lani Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Duuuuuddeeee! You can't stay with her. You seriously think that this will only go on for a few months? If she can have you, as well as all these other guys, she's not going to change her behaviour. I can almost promise you that. As much as I hate to say it, it's ultimatum time. 2
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 We never wanted marriage or kids. hi Claire. I'm just trying to drag my sorry butt through each day. I said all she had to do was promise me that its only sex and she's not looking for love. She said that's all it is, just sex. I also said that she had to tell me if she's meeting a guy so I know that if something bad happens I'll know its with a man. otherwise I'll just think she's at work or with friends and if the worst ever happened I'll not think to tell people she was seeing a guy. you really love this woman but there are other women out there who wouldn't do this. I mean why did she cheat on you so much?
Author stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Then this morning I found a whatsapp thread from a guy. she said I'll be at work till 5 but meet me after work and we'll drive somewhere for an hour or two and have some fun in my car. She's keeping it secret which I specifically asked her not to
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Then this morning I found a whatsapp thread from a guy. she said I'll be at work till 5 but meet me after work and we'll drive somewhere for an hour or two and have some fun in my car. She's keeping it secret which I specifically asked her not to Dude . Dump the hoe 3
Author stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 I think the trouble is I am so besotted with this girl. I mean she's seriously my whole world. I adore her and can't give her up. and yes I know its a sickness with me lol
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I think the trouble is I am so besotted with this girl. I mean she's seriously my whole world. I adore her and can't give her up. and yes I know its a sickness with me lol I have a feeling you'll get over her ****. Dump her
Lani Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I think the trouble is I am so besotted with this girl. I mean she's seriously my whole world. I adore her and can't give her up. and yes I know its a sickness with me lol Of course you can give her up. Will it be easy? Hell no! But it'll be worth it in time. If you stay in this situation you'll wind up very embarrassed, with low self esteem and trust issues. I'm telling you- get out. How can you adore someone who f*cks other men when she's in a relationship? She doesn't deserve one ounce of your adoration. 1
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Steve, this is only gonna get worse. RUN from her! Who in their right mind would be ok if it was "just sex" anyway? C'mon man! Get the hell out of that mess!
Author stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Yeah lani I know she's not gonna stop. That's what's wrong with me. Even knowing that I can't give her up. I must be screwed in the brain lol
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 This is not making you happy and in life everyone wants to be happy even you. So why stick with something that doesn't make you happy?
Author stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Lani the low self esteem and trust are gone already. Maybe that's why I stay, because deep down I know I won't get them back again and all I can see is a lovely empty life for me if we split
Lani Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Yeah lani I know she's not gonna stop. That's what's wrong with me. Even knowing that I can't give her up. I must be screwed in the brain lol Ok. Well then stay with her. Your choice. But not because you can't give her up. Because you won't. There will come a point that you can't take it anymore. I just hope that comes soon, before she does too much damage to you.
Author stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Thanks lani. I suppose I wasn't putting my post up for answers cause I know that i'm not going to do anything about it. Just wanted to get it off my chest I think x
Lani Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Thanks lani. I suppose I wasn't putting my post up for answers cause I know that i'm not going to do anything about it. Just wanted to get it off my chest I think x Subconsciously I think you wanted validation. That staying with her is ok, and that she'll come around. I'm afraid you probably won't get that here. I hope things work out. One way or another.
Author stevefrostx Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Maybe you're right, maybe I was looking for that one person who'd say yeah that happened to me and it worked out ok. But there's more chance of hell freezing over lmao
Lani Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Maybe you're right, maybe I was looking for that one person who'd say yeah that happened to me and it worked out ok. But there's more chance of hell freezing over lmao Haha, pretty much. Strangest thing- they have just started talking about fidelity in relationships on the radio. And women asking their partners how they would feel about them having sex with other men outside the relationship. Incredible timing.
Grumpylilmoose Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Are you open to the possibility of an open relationship? If not get out of this!
Chi townD Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I think the trouble is I am so besotted with this girl. I mean she's seriously my whole world. I adore her and can't give her up. and yes I know its a sickness with me lol I'm thinking bunnies are on this thread. But, on the off chance that this is real. WTF?!??!?! Seriously dude?!?!? First off, this girl is NOT your entire world. She is not your life. Our lives are our own. And we CHOSE who we want to share our lives with. She's happy as snot right now. She has you as her willing cuckold. Sooner or later she'll call you up, " Hey hon! Could you pick up a gallon of milk...and ummm...oh yeah! A box of condoms, I'm out of them right now." Her life is awesome right now because she has you for her emotional needs and gets her physical needs met by every other guy out there. And loving she's that you're agreeing to this. " Babe, you can go screw a basketball team for all I care, JUST DON'T LEAVE ME!!" That's pretty much how she views you right now. And to be honest, that looks and sounds pathetic. And if a complete stranger is tell you that, I could only imagine what your girlfriend is thinking about you. Dude, you deserve so much better than this. When a GIRL says it's just sex, I wouldn't trust that. Girls have a harder time separating "just Sex" with an emotional attachment than guys do. It wouldn't surprise me if she leaves you for one of the guys she's screwing. Then, you hear, " Sorry, I didn't mean to fall in love with *insert name* it just happened." Dude, you need to drop her. Sorry, I know you don't want to hear that. But, you don't deserve this. You deserve a girl that is willing to give herself to you and you alone. Mind, heart, spirit AND body.
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