FearingTEN Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 First of all, I would just like to thank you in advance for reading my thread. Hopefully you can help me with my situation. If you haven't read my story, here it is in a nuttshell- -Dated a girl for 2 and a half years. -All was well until she admitted into having a crush with another guy a year into our relationship -Things went downhill as her talking to this guy made me super protective (which she didnt like ) -Had many arguments but always forgave each other in the mornings -She breaks up with me out of the blue -She dates the other guy 2 weeks later -I begin crying, pleading and begging her back for two months -She said to leave her alone and became VERY harsh and bitter towards me -Decided to stop begging and go no contact (2 days ago) Yes, it was 2 days ago when I decided to go cold turkey because the last text she sent me was: "Please leave me alone. STOP. I don't wanna talk to you! Stop calling and texting me." and "I'm in a happy relationship. Also you're irritating so STOP." That was when I had the final straw and straight up stopped talking to her. But, 2 days into the no conact.. she calls me. I didn't pick up because i didnt want to seem to eager. but then i got a text 5 minutes later from her: "I have the keychain but I'm almost home so I guess I'll give it to you some other day" Now, if you are curious.. the "keychain" she is talking about is our prom picture that I was asking for before no contact. Now, keep in mind that in order for her to give me this keychain requires me to see her because she will have to drive to my house (i dont have a car yet) which obviously means that I must see her. But i dont know what to do. I am still an emotional wreck and I know that it wont benefit me at all. Im very confused as to what to do. Do i reply to her? Do I ignore her? Do I ignor her and continue NC until she worries? Anything will help please Also keep in mind that I am infact still trying to winn her back. as much as she hurt me, i still love her and want her back. Please help. Thank you.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I'm not understanding what you are confused about? You asked for the keychain back before, she has told you point blank she doesnt want to be with you and she is offering to give you back your item.... thats it. She isn't going to magically say "here is the keychain, I want you back" lol. If its REALLY important, have her drop it in a mailbox. Other than that....that's it. Why f***king see her? So you can look worse? Stay NC and move on man 1
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Or text her 2 days later saying you were busy and not home. It would be perfect to ask for it one day and when she's on the way to your house LIE! say something like "I had to run out a friend needed help. Leave it at my mailbox"
JDPT Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I'm not certain how much of a sentimental value this keychain holds but I quiet honestly believe is not working you enduring future grief and breaking NC. Save yourself future agony and do not reply as much as you want to see it you need to fight that inner strength to not reply to her silly message.
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Her text is her reaction to your going NC. So, NC IS working. Let it work. Stay quiet.
Soat Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Her text is her reaction to your going NC. So, NC IS working. Let it work. Stay quiet. NC is working for what? The point of NC is to get over someone, not to dupe someone into coming back. 1
Chi townD Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 A Keychain? Seriously? Dude, here's the deal. The last time she had any communication with you, she said some really harsh things. After that, you went NC. You went from wanting to talk to her to totally dark in a minute! So, now she's feeling guilty. She reaching out to see where your head is at. She's trying to gage how badly she hurt you. Nothing more than that. She just wants to ease her own guilt. Once she discovers that you're fine, back in the gutter with you! I mean, come on! A keychain? Are you seriously gutted about losing a frickin keychain? Dude, she's reaching. She pulling on the leash to see of the dog was still there. She pulled and discovered that the dog was gone and then went looking to see where the dog went. Dude, don't give her the satisfaction. Let her keep her guilt. Maybe she'll learn from it. Stay NC and avoid at all costs. 1
Author FearingTEN Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 I really hope so. Its really killing me and im fighting the urge to not reply. Thank you. I must stay strong
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