xxoo Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 That's you. I plan on using it, eventually. Do you think there's a chance that you are not the "type" for guys your "type"?
MrTurk Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Is the assumption that these guys put "oh by the way, after the first date, I get to be extremely vulgar and aggressive" on their profiles? Or maybe they said this about themselves on an early call or during dinner? Did any of that happen, Star? Are you witholding relevant facts? :lmao: Of course not, reasonable man. Maybe I'm just the oddball...well actually I know I am. But THIS situation is exactly why me...and I bet a lot of other guys avoid very attractive women....such as Star confirmed these are very attractive men. I would think you'd EXPECT them to be vain....but verify that they arent. . .
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Do you think there's a chance that you are not the "type" for guys your "type"? Nope. I attract the single versions of my type, and all my exes have been precisely my type.
xxoo Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Nope. All my exes have been precisely my type. That's good. Most of the guys I know like you describe (and I know a lot of them) go for women just as comfortable with mismatched clothes and sleeping in vehicles, no make up, etc.
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 That's good. Most of the guys I know like you describe (and I know a lot of them) go for women just as comfortable with mismatched clothes and sleeping in vehicles, no make up, etc. The guys I date are simply M-F professionals who are also outdoorsy and rugged weekend warriors (aka NOT metrosexuals), who want adventurous, outdoorsy women who equally ambitious and take care of themselves - the quintessential lady in the boardroom who gets dirty on the weekends. Eventually getting Botox doesn't disqualify me; not sure why you'd think it would. I feel like you're teetering on the, "It's your fault" bandwagon... are you? 1
tbf Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 As a thought, SG, the more superficial and physical the guy, the more likelihood he'll be focused on the superficial and sexual in you. 2
thefooloftheyear Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I wont go through the whole thread, but all I will say is that while it might be more common among men, I have had women act "sexually inappropriate" with me after only a short conversation or text of which I never said or implied anything remotely inviting it.. Its not all one sided.. TFY 1
xxoo Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 The guys I date are simply M-F professionals who are also outdoorsy and rugged weekend warriors (aka NOT metrosexuals), who want adventurous, outdoorsy women who equally ambitious and take care of themselves - the quintessential lady in the boardroom who gets dirty on the weekends. Eventually getting Botox doesn't disqualify me; not sure why you'd think it would. I feel like you're teetering on the, "It's your fault" bandwagon... are you? No, not at all. I'm trying to understand why you get this response or disinterest, and not genuine interest. I'm trying to figure out where the misconnect may be. And it's about matching, not disqualifying.
johan Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Maybe I'm just the oddball...well actually I know I am. But THIS situation is exactly why me...and I bet a lot of other guys avoid very attractive women....such as Star confirmed these are very attractive men. I would think you'd EXPECT them to be vain....but verify that they arent. . . I'm not sure what being vain has to do with the topic.
gaius Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Is the assumption that these guys put "oh by the way, after the first date, I get to be extremely vulgar and aggressive" on their profiles? Or maybe they said this about themselves on an early call or during dinner? Did any of that happen, Star? Are you witholding relevant facts? I remember back in one thread when Star even irritated you to a point where you got somewhat openly nasty, which is highly unusual for you. At least when it comes to behavior on here. Not that you sent a cock pic in retaliation or anything that I know of, but still. I don't think every guy has a steadfast personality that means he will become vulgar and aggressive to every woman after a date. He may be very sweet and gentleman like to some while treating others like garbage. How people behave toward each other is always a two way dance. If one person is finding themselves frequently seeing one reaction from the opposite sex while not seeing much of the normal, healthy reaction a lot of other women get then the issue must lay with that one person. Right? I know a lot of women are sympathizing with getting cock pics, but how many of you can say you have the exact same problem Star does? Guys you actually meet in person don't make the moves on you but send you cock pics instead? Not talking about some random guy you would never meet on online dating. Besides you Red since you've already admitted you have very high walls when it comes to dating. 1
mesmerized Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Didn't you say looks don't matter to you? Maybe go after guys that are not model worthy. Most nerds who make tons of money don't have the balls to ask for sexy pics like that.
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Didn't you say looks don't matter to you? I'd never say that; of course I have to find them attractive. But looks are not the primary drawing force.
RedRobin Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I remember back in one thread when Star even irritated you to a point where you got somewhat openly nasty, which is highly unusual for you. At least when it comes to behavior on here. Not that you sent a cock pic in retaliation or anything that I know of, but still. I don't think every guy has a steadfast personality that means he will become vulgar and aggressive to every woman after a date. He may be very sweet and gentleman like to some while treating others like garbage. How people behave toward each other is always a two way dance. If one person is finding themselves frequently seeing one reaction from the opposite sex while not seeing much of the normal, healthy reaction a lot of other women get then the issue must lay with that one person. Right? I know a lot of women are sympathizing with getting cock pics, but how many of you can say you have the exact same problem Star does? Guys you actually meet in person don't make the moves on you but send you cock pics instead? Not talking about some random guy you would never meet on online dating. Besides you Red since you've already admitted you have very high walls when it comes to dating. How do you think those walls were built???? they were built partly because a certain demographic of 'man' (age, location) has somewhere gotten the idea that women in a certain demographic either invites this or deserves it. How many? ok, take a look at the 'likes' Star has gotten. At least that many. ... and I can tell you it didn't stop for me until I stopped doing OLD altogether... and when I'm doing anything online that could eventually lead to dating, I don't post pics. If I can give any advice at all to Star, is that she needs to find a way to meet and date men she meets IRL. Take anything or anyone she meets in OL world with a grain of salt... ignore any input from men calling, texting, at some later time unless it is a request for another date... Anything other than "I'd really like to see you and get caught up... are you free next week?" Eliminate. ...AND, give those guys who aren't trying to stick their tongues down her throat by the second date a chance. Sure... hasn't worked for me YET... but my dating life is a lot more peaceful and filled with much fewer A-holes since I did this... 3
mesmerized Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I'd never say that; of course I have to find them attractive. But looks are not the primary drawing force. ah, I just remember you saying something like that. My experience is the same as yours. For me tho, it's like the majority of men who are sleazy, not 3 in 4 months lol I have to say tho, the way you present yourself also makes a big difference. Like if you always dress and act very classy and appear more serious rather than fun and easy going, it's much less likely you get such treatments. I'm very flirty and talk freely and it makes men think those talks are welcomed.
Phoe Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Didn't you say looks don't matter to you? Maybe go after guys that are not model worthy. Most nerds who make tons of money don't have the balls to ask for sexy pics like that. mmm...nerds :love: anyways. Star - hopefully this is just some weird fluke that passes and you don't experience this strange pattern again. Hopefully you'll look back and laugh at the weird silly summer where men suddenly had this "sexting fever". 2
mesmerized Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 mmm...nerds :love: How are you still single??
tbf Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 "sexting fever".That's it! It's a virus that men pick up from door knobs and then touch themselves without washing their hands! 3
Phoe Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 How are you still single?? If anyone can tell me the serious answer to that, let me know so I can IMMEDIATELY fix what I'm doing haha. Star - any change in the situation with the dude who only cheek kissed you on date 2? 2
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 ah, I just remember you saying something like that. My experience is the same as yours. For me tho, it's like the majority of men who are sleazy, not 3 in 4 months lol I have to say tho, the way you present yourself also makes a big difference. Like if you always dress and act very classy and appear more serious rather than fun and easy going, it's much less likely you get such treatments. I'm very flirty and talk freely and it makes men think those talks are welcomed. Well, the guy in the OP went from thinking in one breath that I'd welcome his sexting to calling me boring and not playful the next. Do the math. It's not me. 1
mesmerized Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 If anyone can tell me the serious answer to that, let me know so I can IMMEDIATELY fix what I'm doing haha. Star - any change in the situation with the dude who only cheek kissed you on date 2? Just start talking to an anti-social nerd and you're set. It's that easy, really.
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Star - any change in the situation with the dude who only cheek kissed you on date 2? I posted about it in the other thread, but he sent me a message a few minutes ago. All is not lost there, I don't think... 1
mesmerized Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Well, the guy in the OP went from thinking in one breath that I'd welcome his sexting to calling me boring and not playful the next. Do the math. It's not me. Well. In any case you should be happy that only a small percentage of men you meet are like that. Most men I meet are like this and I'm thinking they're this way because it has worked for them before more than a few times.
Author Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Well. In any case you should be happy that only a small percentage of men you meet are like that. Most men I meet are like this and I'm thinking they're this way because it has worked for them before more than a few times. Really? I was hoping this was some small anomaly among men. 2
RedRobin Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I think this is one of the things I get stuck on. I expect men in their late 30's to behave in a more mature fashion than the guys I dated while in college. Perhaps I should reconsider the whole cougar/puma thing. I think the youngin's would be more well behaved! I'm not sure about better behaved, but they are gonna be hard as rocks. Funny thing is... if just sex is on the table... not sure why a guy my own age would think I'd have to settle for a guy my own age... :rolleyes: I just got a text back from a younger guy I used to work with who I know is sweet on me... he asked me before about going rock climbing, and I declined at the time because I thought he was too young for me... Plus I was just starting to see someone and wanted to see where it went... now I'm not sooooo.... Wellllll whaddya know... I saw Mr. Rock Climbing guy walking to his car at the grocery store... and sent him a quick text to see if he wanted to go... He just responded... (suweeet!!) I'm gonna throw a time out there and see where it goes... With my luck, he is probably seeing someone... but ya never know! 3
mesmerized Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Really? I was hoping this was some small anomaly among men. Could be the demographics too. I haven't gone out with any man in his late thirties (usually mid twenties to early thirties) yet but it's sad if men keep this up to that age.
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