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Woggle Established Member

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While I mostly agree with this, where I don't is that so many men nowadays are not commitment-minded. They mostly hold the cards when it comes to having "the talk." I can't tell you how many time I've dated a dude, things are going really well then they claim they "aren't ready for a r'ship." Then you're back at square one, feeling even more defeated than before.

 

I don't think one gender is any more or less commitment minded than the other. There are many women who run from commitment these days. These are not good time for commitment minded people.

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fortyninethousand322 Established Member

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which is great, but I still strongly disagree with your previous point

 

Men don't hold the cards to anything.

 

Just because you don't, doesn't mean other men don't.

 

Lots of men have a pretty easy time dating. Or at least easier than a trip to the dentist's office...

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Leigh 87 Established Member

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He sounds disgusting.

 

Why would he think that you would show your body to him, when you are not his girlfriend and you never were together AND he vanished on you!?

 

Some guys are just inept, Star.

 

NO decent guy would just.. sit around texting a girl he once kissed, asking her to send sexy pics.

 

Obviously, only the bad types do such things.

 

Hopefully you can pick a bad type next time? Then again you never really know initially.

TouchedByViolet Established Member

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And a much larger percent of men have it good, if not very good. The men who struggle to get a date or get laid are the minority.

 

More evidence that the struggling man is invisible. Additionally, the struggling guys often act like they have it better than they actually do. It's only online or with very close friends someone would confide such a thing.

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Perves abound alright!!

 

If it helps, I have noticed the same thing.

It's surprising to me when guys don't turn sexual early on these days. I am actually talking to a guy now and he's not made things sexual at all, and I'm starting to wonder if he just isn't interested. How f*cked up is that?

 

Can you blame anyone else for the fact that you perceive a "non-perv" as disinterested? It's not the fault of the guy who may have genuine interest but has self control.. Perhaps they feel as strangely about having sex with people that they don't know at all as you may..

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RedRobin Established Member

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I have known probably a 100 101 women in my lifetime

 

I think maybe 2 3 of them ever approached a man. Most of them would find the concept ridiculous, as they barely have enough time to figure out which one they like among all the ones pursuing them

 

 

I posted in this thread that I asked out a man today. He accepted :)

 

To be fair, I simply accepted an offer he made many months ago... to his credit, he didn't sit on his hands all night and work up any PUA strategy before getting back to me.

 

He's also not texting me now with pics of his cock.

 

Whether or not I end up dating this guy (which is probably unlikely considering how much younger he is than me), he already seems like someone I want to know better. I honestly have no idea if this will turn into anything romantic...

 

Perhaps more guys should meet women like that too? Just get to know them and stop treating every encounter like a possible bedroom opportunity??

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Robert Established Member

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on topic posts please, this thread is not about how men have it harder than women

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RedRobin Established Member

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So obviously that doesn't count and I'm not sure why you're posting it

 

Ok... here is why it counts... all he did was ask if I still liked to cross country ski and go rock climbing...

 

I said I did.

 

He said "Next time you want to go rock climbing, give me a call"

 

That doesn't necessarily sound like a date, does it?? He has my number... he never called it.

 

We swapped numbers long ago because we'd all gone cross country skiing together as a group and he was riding with me.

 

... I'm the one who saw him in the parking lot today. I made a point of texting him first. When I texted him, I did suggest we could go as a group. HE suggested we meet independently ;)

 

He never asked me on a date. He just suggested I call next time I go.

 

Maybe you want to try that sometime???

tbf Established Member

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on topic posts please, this thread is not about how men have it harder than women
Thank you! Every thread turns into one big whine fest. :mad:
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mario_C Established Member

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I hope situations like this won't generate a mentality of all men in their mid-40s and older being assumed sight unseen to be perverted, immature and potentially dangerous.

Could be the demographics too. I haven't gone out with any man in his late thirties (usually mid twenties to early thirties) yet but it's sad if men keep this up to that age.

 

Ah yes, but if he's late 30's, never married, and lives in Mill Valley... I'm not interested. ;)

 

I'm just going to stop assuming the young guys who express an interest in me necessarily are just hitting on me for the sex...

 

Since so many guys close to my own age seem to be so relationship phobic... and doing stuff like Star mentioned....

 

Silly me.

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fanine Established Member

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It could be some of these guys think that is what they should do, or are supposed to do, if many have just come out of long term relationships. The way much of society is nowadays perhaps they thought that is a turn on to some women?? If it has been years since they have dated they are having to find out all over again what it is like.

 

I remember after my divorce I had no clue at all what i should or shouldn't do in regard to dating. It had been around 11 years since I had been in that position. I was lost!

johan Established Member

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What's so wrong about any of the actions mentioned guys did?

 

They wanted to see if they have a shot, they clearly didn't, so it wouldn't change anything anyway.

 

I agree. If it was in person, the one guy have simply flashed her. Direct. To the point.

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fanine Established Member

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Yes. I really think this.

 

What's so disrespectful about it? It was an offer and got rejected. OP had a right to reject it and they had a right to make it, obviously keeping in mind they can get rejected.

 

Yes but somewhat a sleazy offer? I mean if these guys were interested then this is a strange way of showing it. They are far more likely to be rejected. I don't know many woman who will receive a cock shot on their phone when they have only just met a man and think, awwww he's a keeper.

 

I would probably be rather insulted and then think yuck....

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man_in_the_box Established Member

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Stop dating men with a double-digit IQ.

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Star Gazer Established Member

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They wanted to see if they have a shot, they clearly didn't, so it wouldn't change anything anyway.

 

Re: Mr. Cock Shot: Do you mean he didn't have a shot at dating me, so he just figured he'd show me his cock instead, in the hopes I'd want *that*?

 

You're wrong. He absolutely had a shot. I was very excited to continue getting to know him, and if it worked out, getting to know his penis under the appropriate circumstances and at the right time.

 

He essentially shot himself in the foot.

 

Re: Mr. Sexter: He too had a shot. When we went out, he was rebounding. It was obvious. After taking time to recover, had he approached me differently - say, apologizing for the silence and asking me to dinner - he also would have had a shot. But instead, he lept to sexting me.

 

He too shot himself in the foot.

 

So, if they were looking for "a shot" at dating me, not only was their behavior grossly inappropriate, but it totally destroyed their chances.

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Star Gazer Established Member

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Stop dating men with a double-digit IQ.

 

Should I add a link to an IQ test that reports the results directly to me to my OLD dating profile? Or for the men I meet IRL first, hand them a business card with such link, and make sure the test is completed and scores are reported, prior to accepting a date invitation?

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RedRobin Established Member

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How about you stop responding to guys who ask if you are a serial dater??

 

Or call you 'wife material'??

 

Is that really what this last guy said during your date ?? Called you 'wife material'?

 

You understand what that means, correct? That he's happily binned other women into some other category... which, for some reason, you participated in but overlooked, um why? You kissed that guy?

 

Anyway, I'm not so keen on helping you anymore... figure it out the hard way if you need to.

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Anela Established Member

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Re: Mr. Cock Shot: Do you mean he didn't have a shot at dating me, so he just figured he'd show me his cock instead, in the hopes I'd want *that*?

 

You're wrong. He absolutely had a shot. I was very excited to continue getting to know him, and if it worked out, getting to know his penis under the appropriate circumstances and at the right time.

 

He essentially shot himself in the foot.

 

 

With that nickname, I'm getting really bad visuals here.

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Star Gazer Established Member

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With that nickname, I'm getting really bad visuals here.

 

:lmao: Oh gosh!

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mario_C Established Member

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Should I add a link to an IQ test that reports the results directly to me to my OLD dating profile? Or for the men I meet IRL first, hand them a business card with such link, and make sure the test is completed and scores are reported, prior to accepting a date invitation?
That'll get their attention! :laugh:

That's something I actually like a lot about OKC, is all the tests. In fact, yes, I do believe they have something resembling IQ tests...but they also have penis size tests, and Twilight trivia tests, so take that with a grain of salt.

veggirl Established Member

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Honestly, what is so confusing?

 

The guys decide the girl isn't a girl they are interested in DATING so they try to at least get sex out of the situation.

 

They can use all the sweet words on the date, but so what? It's just like the girl who accepts a kiss at the end of the date but never answers the guys phone call again. They changed their minds.

 

Or, considering they are all rich and gorgeous, this technique has a history of working for them!

 

The only other reason I could see this happening is that they sense a girl is desperate and figure she'll give it up easily in hopes that it leads to a relationship.

FitChick Established Member

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this technique has a history of working for them!

 

The only other reason I could see this happening is that they sense a girl is desperate and figure she'll give it up easily in hopes that it leads to a relationship.

 

I thought of this thread today while listening to political pundits discussing Filthy Filner, the 70-year old now ex-mayor of San Diego who had eighteen women come forward to say he sexually molested or harrassed them. A commentator said an old guy like this doesn't suddenly start doing this now. It obviously has worked for him in the past. Eighteen women might have said "no" but how many said "yes?"

veggirl Established Member

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Re: Mr. Cock Shot: Do you mean he didn't have a shot at dating me, so he just figured he'd show me his cock instead, in the hopes I'd want *that*?

 

You're wrong. He absolutely had a shot. I was very excited to continue getting to know him, and if it worked out, getting to know his penis under the appropriate circumstances and at the right time.

 

He essentially shot himself in the foot.

 

Re: Mr. Sexter: He too had a shot. When we went out, he was rebounding. It was obvious. After taking time to recover, had he approached me differently - say, apologizing for the silence and asking me to dinner - he also would have had a shot. But instead, he lept to sexting me.

 

He too shot himself in the foot.

 

So, if they were looking for "a shot" at dating me, not only was their behavior grossly inappropriate, but it totally destroyed their chances.

 

But why ignore the fact that maybe they were NOT looking for a shot to date you at this point but rather JUST wanted to fk you. So they didn't CARE if they were inappropriate because if it worked then score and if it didn't then who cares they didn't give a fk anyway.

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Star Gazer Established Member

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But why ignore the fact that maybe they were NOT looking for a shot to date you at this point but rather JUST wanted to fk you. So they didn't CARE if they were inappropriate because if it worked then score and if it didn't then who cares they didn't give a fk anyway.

 

Who says I'm ignoring that?

 

It was inappropriate, period. Was it not?

ChessPieceFace Established Member

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No, I did not. I did not pick perves. Read the thread.

 

Actually, you did pick pervs, which is why you made this thread. Or are you telling me you didn't pass over any "boring" guys between finding these prizes of humanity?

 

You call men pigs in your sig line. You dated pigs. Face it - you fulfilled your own prophecy.

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