Sometimes, reading the posts about breaking up and dating makes me

[MelodyJ]

Think about staying in my current uncomfortable situation. At least he is not being mean or calling me names anymore. Since I told him I was leaving, he begged me to stay, and said he would give me space and quit being so controlling about everything. I hate to say it, but my mom keeps telling me he needs me there to help with the house payment, and I think she is right. Now we just exist in the same space, that's all. We pool our money for the household expenses, I sleep on the couch, we make small talk, and the kids are happy because we are not fighting every night like before. I am lad we never maried, or had kids together, but this somehow makes it even worse, because I have no valid reason for staying.

 

But, reading all the posts about the horrors of dating, and breaking hearts and such, makes me feel so sad. I feel depressed after. I feel depressed living the way am also, but maybe it is better to be a little depressed, and not crying all the time like I was before, than to face what is really out there waiting for me.

 

I keep hearing Creeds"What's this life for?" in my head, and I honestly don't know.

 

If it wasn't for my kids, I would run away.

[tattoomytoe]

Amen to that......but why should you sacrifice happiness for better than nothing?

 

sure it may take a little bit of work or time to get the happiness you want, but it makes it that much more worth it in the end.

 

Do not waiver on your decision to be happy!

 

and of course he is being all nice and accomidating now...but why do you have to make threats and ultimatims to have him treat you decently? You should not!

He should treat you like a Queen because he knows that you are a Queen!

 

Keep Strong!

[BlueLP]

Consistent unhappiness and settling is less scary than uncertain dating and possible future heartache, but you have to stay strong and keep trying if you want to be happy, like tattoo said. It's always gonna be a risk to try to be happy with others in a relationship, but that's what we strive for.

 

And if you're looking to avoid bad stories about dating, then you might want to stop reading posts here We sure get a lot of those kind of posts, but remember that the posters here are very self-selected. By that I mean that most of the people having great experiences or alright ones don't post here....it's the ones having trouble or looking for support that are initially attracted to here.

[meanon]

I can relate to that feeling, but these are not your only options. You can find happiness in your own right. Once you do, you'll never look back.

 

Why accept a life that you can see no point in having? You may need some time to adjust to being alone, to find contentment in the simple things of life, to accept love if and when it finds you, rather than risking too much too soon. When you start expecting good things to happen to you, then you'll know you are ready to start dating again.

[Scott S]

Originally posted by tattoomytoe

He should treat you like a Queen because he knows that you are a Queen!

 

This approach/attitude can be problematic.

 

I prefer to remember one of the vows "To love, to honor, and to cherish," and I try to act accordingly because I love my lady very much, not because anyone acts "Queenly."