Kozmo Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 when i asked her, she said "Please don't rush me, I'm trying to forgive you and forgive myself.. Then I'll learn to love again. I'm not sure what kind of love it will be, at this moment I cannot be in love with anyone anytime soon. Having respect and love for someone is possible though." this was before i went NC btw. i asked her this to see if there was a chance for us still in the future. she told me the truth is that she is not ready for a relationship, so she's going to work on herself. i respect her answer, and all i can do is leave her alone. after what she said is there still a chance later on?
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Uuuuuu. No one knows really. She was being honest cause she cares about you. If she would've said no who also knows what will happen in the long run. Every r/s is different. If its meant to be it'll find its way. What does your heart tell you?
Author Kozmo Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Uuuuuu. No one knows really. She was being honest cause she cares about you. If she would've said no who also knows what will happen in the long run. Every r/s is different. If its meant to be it'll find its way. What does your heart tell you? i really don't know.. she's kinda pissed off at me right now. i'm hoping time will heal all wounds. i know she'll be back one day.
na49 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Whether there's a chance or not in the future isn't up to you. It's up to her. It's best to just worry about yourself right now as hard as that may seem.
clairedunham Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 i really don't know.. she's kinda pissed off at me right now. i'm hoping time will heal all wounds. i know she'll be back one day. It depends on the intensity of the r/s. the intensity of the hurt, the lies, the cheating (if there was) just basically the problems. If you feel it in your heart that there's this certain thing between you 2 maybe there's a chance but you have to work on yourself. I read what happened between you 2. I think you should give her time. In your situation anything could happen as anyone elses
lovesucks76 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I don't think you should wait around... Completely agree. You'r setting yourself up! Move on! 1
NvrLetUDown Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 You need to take the NC to work on yourself. I myself am at 3 weeks NC, 3 weeks after BU. You can take a look at my thread to see the full story but it's somewhat similar to yours. You just gotta let em go and if they come back great and if not you would have moved on. All the best to you!
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 when i asked her, she said "Please don't rush me, I'm trying to forgive you and forgive myself.. Then I'll learn to love again. I'm not sure what kind of love it will be, at this moment I cannot be in love with anyone anytime soon. Having respect and love for someone is possible though." this was before i went NC btw. i asked her this to see if there was a chance for us still in the future. she told me the truth is that she is not ready for a relationship, so she's going to work on herself. i respect her answer, and all i can do is leave her alone. after what she said is there still a chance later on? Look man, I like you. You seem cool and you like the Sonics. I gotta be honest man, she is playing you and playing it HARD. She feels guilty for hurting you, but thats about as far as it goes. VERY basic saying she is using tp try and ease the pain... and the words between it are "I care about you, but I dont want to be with you anymore." You dont see it and probably wont until she finally hits you with it when she is frustrated with dealing with it anymore. I've seen these many phrases before and even from my ex. She said "She loves me" "I'm coming back I promise" and "You are the one" etc etc etc....thing is, she had her own agenda as does yours. She is trying to balance both yours and hers, but soon, she will only concern herself with herself. There is something MUCH deeper that she isnt telling you. You HAVE to back off. STOP TALKING TO HER! You keep shooting yourself in your own foot. 1
Author Kozmo Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Look man, I like you. You seem cool and you like the Sonics. I gotta be honest man, she is playing you and playing it HARD. She feels guilty for hurting you, but thats about as far as it goes. VERY basic saying she is using tp try and ease the pain... and the words between it are "I care about you, but I dont want to be with you anymore." You dont see it and probably wont until she finally hits you with it when she is frustrated with dealing with it anymore. I've seen these many phrases before and even from my ex. She said "She loves me" "I'm coming back I promise" and "You are the one" etc etc etc....thing is, she had her own agenda as does yours. She is trying to balance both yours and hers, but soon, she will only concern herself with herself. There is something MUCH deeper that she isnt telling you. You HAVE to back off. STOP TALKING TO HER! You keep shooting yourself in your own foot. as i said this was all before no contact. its been 10 days since we spoke.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 as i said this was all before no contact. its been 10 days since we spoke. Must have omitted that part since I've noticed you have made more threads than usual. My pont still stands my friend
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