flsgirl Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 Hey everyone, I'm just curious about the sex question.I just recently met someone and he and I have really great chemistry together. We haven't slept together yet, but I think eventually it will happen. How do you bring up the topic of sex without invading their privacy. I basically just want to make sure he's disease free (which I hope he would be honest). I don't want to know past histories. I want to talk about it before we get to that point where we're in the moment. I just don't want it to be a big deal. We're still not at the point where it will happen. How do you guys handle the situation?
tattoomytoe Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 well, it really is not as big a deal as you think. i mean really a sexually active person has to be responsible about their body and who they choose to contaminate it. if you can have sex with a person, i would hope you could say" so, when were you last tested?" i always ask, and if a guy has a problem with it, it kinda make me nervous, cause i think...great who the hell has he been with and not known anything about? Just ask as you are getting the condom out, or after you have decieded to go "there", and say so...are you clean? have you been checked?
HappyInNJ Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 I would say just be forward and ask. Maybe you could talk about birth control, and then lead into his using a condom. I think that might be an indirect way of being direct? I personally didn't want to know how many, where, when, how, etc. A true gentleman would take the responsibility on his own. Personally, I always hated condoms, but when the moment came, I had to be responsible to both her and myself.
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