Deepwounds Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Long post, but interested in what anyone thinks.. I started talking with this this girl, and right off the back she mentioned a BF. Which I didn't just move on to the next girl.. She was interesting to me. So I continue talking her. Just small talk about our life what we do etc etc. We exchange numbers and even [skype names[she is not local]. That was that. I didn't push anything because I knew she had a BF 'She claimed'. So for the next few days we would skype and talk. She then continued to flirt with me like most girls typically do, but I held my composure knowing her BF situation. We talked about personal things and this continued for a couple days, but my idiot self started liking her. After some time she would continuously open the convo and want to Skype with me. Flirting, always wondering what I am doing and saying things like I missed you, and sending me hearts and stuff Signs to me that mabe she is interested. Always trying to skpye etc etc. So I strait up told her. Hey I like you, and she kinda got upset a bit and I asked her how she felt. She said she really doesnt know how to explain it to me, but it was not bad feelings. At this point, I just took that as a sign of... Friendzoned/Not Interested but the convos kept coming, the flirting kept coming but I kinda stepped back and kinda kept it ~ Friendly ~ Well after a few days of this her attitude in the convos became more.. Sexual/aggressive on her end, but I kinda blew them off by trolling back kinda. The next day she made it a goal to skype with me with no pants on.. And teasing me.. Saying she doesn't want me to see when she gets up to do something. So I played along, but I peaked DUH! told her.. Then she shy'd up and we moved on to the next convo. then out of no where shes like 'My friend says I have a nice butt' You want to see? I said sure I will judge.. She showed me.. etc etc etc the situation got heated and well.. Things happened.. And she enjoyed ever last min....lol After shes like WHAT DID WE DOOOOOO.. I asked if it was bad etc shes like no I wouldn't take it back.. then she asked 'Do you still like me' I told her.. and she said 'Hmmm I just feel strange' and I asked is this a bad strange and she claims its not.. Now I know I prob should just run away from this seeing how shes still with her 'fabricated?'BF, but its more like.. What to do next? Play it off like it never happened? See how things go about tomorrow.. Because there is a 95% chance she will want to skpye like normal.. Or am I just a dumb guy who is blind from all the clear signs shes interested in me and about to drop this 'fabricated?' BF?
Author Deepwounds Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 So.. You judging me helps me figure out how to fix this? I mean you want to say all these things but yet, you provide no guidance nor anything tangible for helping someone. You have a right to your own opinion, but it is clear you would rather belittle and be rude than to help someone with an issue. So please don't post again :/
justwhoiam Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Too many missing details: 1) How/where you met her 2) How old are you both 3) How far away are you from each other With no further details, I would say she does this kind of things with a lot of other guys. She's probably an attention seeker. In which case, getting her undivided attention will be like mission impossible. And it sounds like she needs constant reassurance about her physical features. So many red flags, that it looks like a foreign embassy's parade.
Author Deepwounds Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Too many missing details: 1) How/where you met her 2) How old are you both 3) How far away are you from each other With no further details, I would say she does this kind of things with a lot of other guys. She's probably an attention seeker. In which case, getting her undivided attention will be like mission impossible. And it sounds like she needs constant reassurance about her physical features. So many red flags, that it looks like a foreign embassy's parade. 1. Met at a local beach where I live. I was surfing one morning and was packing up to leave and we kinda bumped into each other. 2. I am 25, she is 23 3. Far far far far away. She was here for college, and she is originally from China. She went back to China a couple weeks after we met. Silly silly silly I am still posting about this, but today she explained she was going to be gone over the weekend, and claims that she will miss me. Which I played along but I think this is the perfect time to just ease on out of this one, or mabe that is what she is doing to ease out of it without feeling so bad. Dunno we will see I guess.
justwhoiam Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 1. Met at a local beach where I live. I was surfing one morning and was packing up to leave and we kinda bumped into each other. Then you already knew what her butt looked like............. she just provoked you. 2. I am 25, she is 23 You're both old enough... 3. Far far far far away. She was here for college, and she is originally from China. She went back to China a couple weeks after we met. Silly silly silly I am still posting about this, but today she explained she was going to be gone over the weekend, and claims that she will miss me. Which I played along but I think this is the perfect time to just ease on out of this one, or mabe that is what she is doing to ease out of it without feeling so bad. Dunno we will see I guess. Yeah. Move on. She doesn't look like a good catch anyway.
Author Deepwounds Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 With that being said.. We talked again today on skype. Again things got heated up and after we talked about things. She mentioned that we should control what are are doing on our skype calls. She repeats saying 'I don't know if I like you' and continues on about how I make her happy, but did mention that she was worried that i would stop talking to her after fooling around on skype.. Questions/thoughts 1. Why do the things we do on skype if she didnt like me. 2. She doesnt want to confess to liking me because she things I am already going to ditch her because of our skype sessions so she is feeling me out? 3. She said she is comfortable around me when we do this skype stuff. Again I am just trying to figure it out because I have family that is located on that side of the world that is cery close to her, and I am heading to visit them next year. So its not all unlikely we could meet again very soon, but these should sum it up. If the reply is negative I will just end this little thing this weekend.
justwhoiam Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 If the reply is negative I will just end this little thing this weekend. Are you trying to threaten fellow posters?! She repeats saying 'I don't know if I like you' and continues on about how I make her happy I don't know if I like you = this could mean several things... like "I'm not telling you how I feel about you at this stage", "Of course I like you, would I be talking to you otherwise??", "If I said I like you, you might misunderstand..." Why do the things we do on skype if she didnt like me. You happened to be around at the right time? She doesnt want to confess to liking me because she things I am already going to ditch her because of our skype sessions so she is feeling me out? That'd be enough of a good reason to be vague about it. She said she is comfortable around me when we do this skype stuff. It looks like it happened more than once...................... She's testing the waters. She wants you to think she's a good girl...
Author Deepwounds Posted August 25, 2013 Author Posted August 25, 2013 Some updates for I guess you the only one listening lol.. She came back from her trip, and I get a morning wake up message saying "I MISS YOU" I guess she didn't fabricate a story of having to leave to drop me down lightly.. With that being said, today's convo was more.. friend based. Which I can understand because she did say she wants to "Control" out actions while on skype. Which makes me believe she is testing me. I'm ok with this myself. Still continue flirting and receiving complements from her which I would reply back more casual about it because of the mood of the convo. Maybe your and my theory is correct and she just isnt all about rushing into stuff which is still silly considering we live 26564+65+65+65 miles away.. and she claims to have a BF.. I leave for about 2 weeks and will have limited contact with her, but I plan to drop her some messages when I can. I guess I will see how things go about after I get back. Thanks for ur help ^_^
justwhoiam Posted August 25, 2013 Posted August 25, 2013 I guess you the only one listening lol.. Don't worry about that... when others are not replying is because they don't have anything to add... Thanks for ur help ^_^ You're welcome.
moneyneversleeps Posted August 26, 2013 Posted August 26, 2013 Well.. Does she still have this boyfriend? Is this boyfriend even real? Girls sometimes say that are 'seeing' someone when its complicated or not even happening. She showed you her cute little butt. You are not naive at all. Balsac is just mentally challenged. So, continue having fun, escalate and maybe have cyber (if you already haven't). After you build up a stronger relationship, ask about her bf, and say you are having fun or whatever but your not sure if this is the right thing to be doing.. Look at it this way. She likes you/has feelings for you. She isn't that into her boyfriend. She accepts the fact that you guys are far apart, enjoys your company, the attention and you as a person. she accepts that you cant be together because of the distance... You can always just ask her 'what are we doing' that always gets an interesting answer...
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