thatone Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Since you are a woman you will have a hard time. Guys are very very focused on visual attraction. Women can be too of course, but way more men than women place an inordinate amount of emphasis on visual attraction. Its pretty much the end all be all for men. There is a very small % of men not like this so you could get lucky. Id suggest looking into programs and such to lose weight. I know a few insanely attractive girls who are batsh** crazy and are super insecure and messed up mentally. They have no issues getting boyfriends or guys. I also have some gal friends who are overweight with a big charming personality and act confident (think Queen Latifah) they have more troubles getting guys. It all comes down to how fu**able you are with guys, sadly. Im just giving her realistic advice... True but the hot psycho will be a lonely psycho by 35. The looks will fade, psycho lasts forever.
TB Rhine Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Nah, she'll just be getting the courtship dance from guys in their 50's, rather than guys in their 20's, 30's, and 40's.
thefooloftheyear Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 She's not fat. Not in that way. She does have a perfect body... Just saying. Where did I say she was fat? TFY
Joyvke Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I've always had troubles with my weight (still do) and I never had troubles finding boyfriends. Even know I'm getting quite the attention again. So don't let your weight hold you back, if you have a good personality I'm sure you will meet a nice guy .
lonelybird Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I have never seen so many overweight people in my life until l came to USA. Every juice and liquid is loaded with heavy sugar. Lot of people cannot drink coffee and tea without putting loads of suger in them. People here seem to be very concerned about health but at the same time feed themselves junk food. If you really want to lose weight, l believe there is a way. Get rid of heavy sugary food, eat lot of vegetables, drink tea (especially green tea)...l am sure you will figure it out if you have strong will to change. Even Chinese food here is loaded with suger in order to meet the taste buds here, so they are no longer genuine Chinese food anymore! Anyway, in order to to be comfortable in your own skin, l believe only telling yourself you are great won't work. You have to truly believe so through hard work, your dedication. And through the process you will be proud of yourself even you make little changes each day. I like another poster's story about how she changed her life. I believe a happy person takes a wholesome view toward life: being heathy mentally, physically, spiritually. 1
Energy Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 As a heavyset person - I get where you're coming from, and I do believe a lot of the "fat acceptance" rhetoric out there is misguided; or, at least, that the people spouting it are going about trying to make their point in the wrong way. Read this and then come back: Fat Is Officially Incurable (According to Science) | Cracked.com Essentially, real, enormous weight loss (the kind every fat person dreams of... of one day being the fit, skinny, attractive person), sustained over the long haul, is statistically impossible. There are a few freak cases here and there, as the article mentions, but they're BY FAR the exception rather than the rule. I know, I know - your boyfriend's aunt's college roommate lost a bunch of weight once. Doesn't change the facts. So, that being the case - I don't think there's anything wrong with counseling people to try and learn to make peace with who they are, and what they look like, rather than holding onto the pipe dream of losing a large amount of weight that's never going to come off. I'll say it again - SERIOUS weight loss is not just "hard"... it is statistically impossible. Why push the fatties of the world (myself included) to spend the rest of their lives hanging their self-worth and self-esteem on their ability to accomplish a goal they're never going to achieve? I don't think anyone's discouraging weight loss on its own merits; they're simply trying to tell heavyset people not to view weight loss as the magical cure-all (and, above all, infinitely attainable goal) that everyone in their lives and in popular culture tells them it is, every day. And, perhaps, they're trying to tell thinner people not to dismiss the problems of fatties, based on the assumption that they're "just lazy" and "they can lose the weight if they want to." A wild guess here but that's probably because people who lose large amounts of weight and maintain it aren't accounted for in the statistics because they simply haven't been recorded. To maintain weight loss, you need to change your lifestyle and your attitude towards food and exercise. It's a lifetime commitment, and usually people who do this don't sign up for fad diets or fad exercise regimes which promise large amounts of weight in next to no time, but don't address the lifestyle issues or even psychological ones - the root of all weight problems. Most of the amazing weight loss success stories you read in magazines or newspapers, you know, with the "before and after" pictures, tend to be pushed by some diet fad or slimming club like LighterLife or WeightWatchers, these people have commercial interests and want to attract customers and a more cynical person would suggest that these companies deliberately promote unsustainable weight loss methods or over-reliance on a certain type of support because someone losing weight and maintaining it themselves mean they lose a customer.
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