Booklover79 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 So, I'm new to dating after a very long relationship. My aunt suggested I try match.com. I kind of feel uncomfortable posting all about me on there, but I guess I got to start somewhere, since I do not do the bar scene and all, nor do I get out much lately. I peeked at some profiles last night. I saw many known druggies, who I have seen and heard about around my small town, who do not even work. Ugh! I just really wanted someone else's input on the site or other dating sites. Anybody had success?
ls32ssibm Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Match is as good as online dating gets as far as the people go, just beware they have some pretty sneaky subscription ploys. The only one I'll get into is let's say your sub expires. They bombard you telling you that you've gotten new messages, new winks, etc, to try and get you to re-sub. All this is is old stuff you've already seen that they are trying to pawn off as new. Anyway, check out this thread I made http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/416357-match-probably-best-old-site#post5132322
Brunettie Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I did Match. It was pretty good. The best site I tried. I met my current boyfriend on there.
SugarLips72 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Online dating can be ok. Be selective and picky. Match is one of the better sites I did find the quality of men better than others. Heres is a tip. Pretty much ignore winks. They are flirts men send to you because they are usually scammers and out of state. Put in your profile you will only respond to emails and not to winks. Turn off your instant messenger again the scammers and out of state will bug you. For being a pay site match has its share of scammers. Make sure the guy is local, and has more than 1 pic up. Once you start messaging someone you think you might be interested in, plan a short low key date asap. Some cheap and casual...coffee...drinks. The quicker you meet them and see if there is any spark the better off you will be and less time wasted. good luck
KatZee Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Wow, I must have just had tons of bad luck with Match. I found the caliber of guys to be below average. I found very few of the guys attractive. I also had really nasty guys trying to message me. I never had one conversation with anyone from Match.com. I cancelled the account soon there after. I think there are far more attractive people on OKCupid, AND it's free. For some pretty interesting reading: Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating « OkTrends
Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 If you're relationship oriented, you get what you pay for, IME. eHarmony has the most relationship oriented folks; OKC and POF the most casual (including options for casual sex); Match has its share of players, but IME it's closer to eH than the other two. 1
BluEyeL Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I did dating for 5 months this year and I was on all sites except POF. I found match to be the best, although I didn't meet my current BF there. However, my BF saw me first on match and instead of messaging me, came to specifically talk to me at a meetup thing, so it had something to do with match, which prompted our first encounter. You can also try meetups.
Author Booklover79 Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Thanks for your replies! I tried okc. What a joke! I several times said what I was looking for (age, area, bodytype, etc). They we're giving me total opposite people and some of those people weren't even looking for my type. One guy was looking for woman up to age 32. I'm 33. Hello, why would it even show me his profile. We are not compatible. It was also giving me old men with silver hair..Wth! It gave me a man looking for sex only (atleast he's honest). It said 90% my enemy 0% compatibility. Why? I'm already disappointed and I haven't even began. I also tried match. Like I said before, local drug addicts on there. Yeah, that's what I really want. Also, paying just to message a person? My feeling is, you should get one or two to a person, then pay because you might not want to even take it further than that little conversation. 1
happywithlife Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I met a wonderful man in match.com. We've been dating for 8 months. IMatch takes time and work. You meet plenty of people who you wouldn't want to date. Just have to keep the right attitude and stick to your standards. My boydriend and I are both in our mid-thirties. 1
SugarLips72 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I am also on OK Cupid right now and I have absolutely no idea how they determine who is a match, a friend or an enemy. Ignore that. I am also seeing people outside of my state coming up on Quick match and under "Activity" I see a profile or pic change and I click on it only to see they are out of state too. I have been on it for a few weeks, very little luck. Met one guy,went out with him 5 or 6 times and that has fizzled out. I do have a guy texting me who lives close to me and he seems good looking and normal, our kids are close in age so hopefully we will meet up here soon. You will find yourself ignoring most of your messages and that is ok, be picky and only reply bck to the ones you are interested in.
Phantom888 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I met my current love on Match. I have also met a few past relationships on Match. Overall a good experience. You get what you pay for. I would not rely on the free sites. I figure if you pay money to meet people, you are gonna be more serious about it.
soccerrprp Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I don't where you live, but online dating is best where the dating pool is large®. You said you saw some people from your small town. I hope that isn't your only or primary dating pool. Ugh. Anyway, I have had success with Match.com. Met some classy ladies. I agree with Star_Gazer, match is closer to eH (notice both paid sites). But, to be fair, I have met some nice people on the free sites too. 1
Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 Thanks for your replies! I tried okc. What a joke! I several times said what I was looking for (age, area, bodytype, etc). They we're giving me total opposite people and some of those people weren't even looking for my type. One guy was looking for woman up to age 32. I'm 33. Hello, why would it even show me his profile. We are not compatible. It was also giving me old men with silver hair..Wth! It gave me a man looking for sex only (atleast he's honest). It said 90% my enemy 0% compatibility. Why? I'm already disappointed and I haven't even began. I also tried match. Like I said before, local drug addicts on there. Yeah, that's what I really want. Also, paying just to message a person? My feeling is, you should get one or two to a person, then pay because you might not want to even take it further than that little conversation. I don't think you should rely on Match or OKC to "give you" matches. You have to SEARCH for them.
soccerrprp Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I don't think you should rely on Match or OKC to "give you" matches. You have to SEARCH for them. Yes, yes! You seek! The match percentage thing is doubtful and I ignore them. Also, the people interested in you very likely ignore them as well. There may be a few questions that you've answered and how that may be non-negotiable and so they will look into them, but overall, the percentages mean very little when it comes to initial interest.
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I have a free profile on Match.com and there seems to be some pretty cool women on there. Probably too cool for me, but when I get some money soon (next couple of weeks hopefully) I'll try Match out see what happens. Can't be any worse than I've found OLD to be so far. Or can it?
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