bacchius Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Hi all, First, "TL;DR" people: I'm sorry! If you read on, you're awesome, and I'll happily return the favor to some other person with a longwinded drama question down the road. So I met a girl online and the day I asked her on our first date, she had to travel for 1.5 months doing her work in science. So we spoke during text, having never met, and quickly started having fun/dirty texts and getting generally pretty close and sexting. Little weird I guess, since it was long distance. There were deep conversations on the phone/Skype, too. All's well that ends well, though, and when she came back into town we had three awesome nights before she had to go on another trip for two weeks. The nights leading up to her coming back this time, she was giving "sweet" signals (I am really interested in this girl, now) and we were planning to meet the night she got back. Turns out the subletter wasn't out of her apartment yet and she had a serious hassle on her hands, which I totally understand. I texted her that sucked, though, because "tomorrow's iffy for me." Her: "What's up tomorrow? Lol" Me: "Dad may stay... He is passing through" Her: "I see. [...] I really do want to see you but don't want it to be a booty call." Booty call? That was unexpected. I sent a text saying that wasn't what I was interested in, and then when she didn't respond in two hours, I told her I was going to sleep. And that was the last text of the night. She apparently texted back after midnight apologizing and saying how busy it had been, since she's hosting another girl and got to care for her until she goes to her house later this weekend. This is true, this friend of hers has been in her care during the last science trip. The next morning I told her I understood she was busy, I was disappointed we didn't connect, but it seemed like she needed a bratty attitude adjustment for telling me she didn't want to be my "booty call" and then disappearing unresponsive. I guess I'd have worded it differently, in retrospect. After a short exchange, we made up and decided to have lunch. Lo and behold, she's still got her friend with her at lunch (again, I don't see why it's that important for her to be with her friend 24-7, even if she's hosting the friend away from home) and she gave me some gifts she got on her trip. I kissed the side of her head when I was done getting my gifts, and felt okay about the vibe. She said twice that she may be having a "Welcome home" party for herself (haha) tomorrow at her house, and that "If we have it, you should come!" Which I said I would, but thought to myself that was an iffy thing for someone to offer, even with a very active social life. Then again, maybe it's because she's hosting that friend of hers, still. All that leads to this question: Should I jump to any conclusions, here? Isn't it, like, not cool to invite a guy in whom you're interested out with friends EVERY TIME, when the sum time you've been together is just three wild nights? Then again, why would you invite someone to your perfectly good small party just to show he's in the friend zone? Surely that would crimp the fun a bit. Furthermore, part of that "booty call" statement from the night before implies maybe she felt like a "booty call" when I didn't invite her to meet my dad. It's too soon for that, and of course I'm not going to pry that out of her. Anyway, what do you think? I'd rather not waste my time. Either way, I think I'm just going to tell her I'm not comfortable meeting all those friends yet and would rather have her undivided attention a couple more times.
mcfcjay Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 The way i see it she said the booty call thing hinting that she wants something to do with you intimately but doesnt want to do it whilst you two aint in a relationship of some sorts, basically she doesnt want to be a random one nighter of yours! But theres not a chance she would offer that if shes interested, show her attention infront of her friends, she will love it, go to the party, have a few beers and make your move god damnit! people end up in the friend zone coz they dont make a bloody move they leave it to long but carry on being friendly, it doesnt sound like your in the friend zone so make your move before you lose out, from the sounds of it shes into you!
Author bacchius Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 The way i see it she said the booty call thing hinting that she wants something to do with you intimately but doesnt want to do it whilst you two aint in a relationship of some sorts, basically she doesnt want to be a random one nighter of yours! But theres not a chance she would offer that if shes interested, show her attention infront of her friends, she will love it, go to the party, have a few beers and make your move god damnit! people end up in the friend zone coz they dont make a bloody move they leave it to long but carry on being friendly, it doesnt sound like your in the friend zone so make your move before you lose out, from the sounds of it shes into you! Fine words, my friend. Though I'm not sure if I'm comfortable going to the party! But that's another subject entire, isn't it.
mcfcjay Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 You only live once and you only get one shot, go for it, go round watch her get drunk and smash her back doors in! Best to give it a go than to think what if! Could get your leg over best opportunity to do it is at a party!
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