Myab23 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I have a question. Do you feel like teenage love is more intense than any other love? More exciting? I feel like I've missed out on so much as I didn't have a boyfriend until 19 and I know for a fact we were never in love. I did fall in real love until 22. But the person had already been in love, experienced firsts with his first love at 16. I just am so jealous of that relationship. I wish that I had a intense teenage love that I could look back on fondly. I've only been able to be with men who have already been jaded by past relationships. It would have been nice to experience innocent love, to be someone's first. I really feel like I missed out on a big life experience.
Betterthanthis13 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I have a question. Do you feel like teenage love is more intense than any other love? More exciting? I feel like I've missed out on so much as I didn't have a boyfriend until 19 and I know for a fact we were never in love. I did fall in real love until 22. But the person had already been in love, experienced firsts with his first love at 16. I just am so jealous of that relationship. I wish that I had a intense teenage love that I could look back on fondly. I've only been able to be with men who have already been jaded by past relationships. It would have been nice to experience innocent love, to be someone's first. I really feel like I missed out on a big life experience. What did that guy say to make you jealous of his teenage love experience? When I was in my early 20's I idealized my "teenage love"- but just so you know, it was more in my head than anything else.
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Ahhh, teenage love. No bills, no worrying about credit history, no worrying about supporting yourselves. Those are key reasons why they are so memorable. There isn't much to taint them. Most things I fought about had to do with him checking out other girls or saying mean things to me. It is over rated though, because once you get older and you fall in love as an adult. It is completely different, so many more obstacles to work through, but it makes a love that is so strong, there really is no comparison.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I have a question. Do you feel like teenage love is more intense than any other love? More exciting? I feel like I've missed out on so much as I didn't have a boyfriend until 19 and I know for a fact we were never in love. I did fall in real love until 22. But the person had already been in love, experienced firsts with his first love at 16. I just am so jealous of that relationship. I wish that I had a intense teenage love that I could look back on fondly. I've only been able to be with men who have already been jaded by past relationships. It would have been nice to experience innocent love, to be someone's first. I really feel like I missed out on a big life experience. No, not for the reasons relating to it having been teenage love. It wouldn't be the age that had anything to do with it. Mostly it would instead be the fact that many such partners had not been jaded by reality prior to that initial relationship. So they were able to risk everything without holding back - and I'm sensing that to be what you are longin to do... but these days, it's too risky (for whatever stack of reasons you believe you have).
Author Myab23 Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Thats what I mean. Like we are swarmed with bills and stress and I'm a mental case half the time so I wish I had those memories to reflect on. I honestly feel like I missed out. I'm jealous that he has those moments of carefreeness and jealous that they weren't with me. He's never really said anything specifically to get me jealous. Just stuff I've heard. Like they were forced apart, he tried everything to get her back, he couldn't date anyone for like a year after it ended. I know they spent like everyday together, he said something to me about losing his best friend many years ago. Like he was so hurt. I don't understand getting over hurt like that. How could he ever love me fully if he's had felt that strongly for someone else. Since it was the first heartbreak and and such an vulnerable age I feel like it will always be with him. I guess I just wish I had that experience to reference how you get past such feelings. Like are you ever really past it?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 I'm not talking about the 'reality' that is mere bills, and keeping a roof overhead and food on the table. I am talking about the reality relating to various personal/sexual/emotional abuses done by parents, family, and possibly even prior lovers. The person entering into their first-ever loving relationship who hasn't earlier been compromised by any of that reality has every chance to risking deep emotion in unbridled fashion in just the ways you suggest, no matter if they're 14 or 56. It has nothing to do with their being mere teenagers.
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