napy666 Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I messaged this guy we exchanged a few messages and he ends up telling me how he was having a rough week. I replied back with "Oh that sucks sorry to hear it". I didn't get a reply back and have yet to hear back from the guy. Did I really kill the conversation by these remarks? To me it seems like even if I say "Hi How are you?" to a guy I am interested in and don't get a reply back it's like what am I doing wrong here?
Knoxpwns Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I messaged this guy we exchanged a few messages and he ends up telling me how he was having a rough week. I replied back with "Oh that sucks sorry to hear it". I didn't get a reply back and have yet to hear back from the guy. Did I really kill the conversation by these remarks? To me it seems like even if I say "Hi How are you?" to a guy I am interested in and don't get a reply back it's like what am I doing wrong here? "Oh that sucks sorry to hear it." Not to say you "killed it", but you definitely kind of left it closed. There is nowhere for the conversation to really move from that, and especially if he is kinda having one of those weeks (We've all been there.), it's probably going to be a bit harder for him to keep the conversation moving forward. Perhaps try moving the conversation to something more lighthearted, or if he seems like the guy who would like having someone to vent to, you can always offer to hear him out and let him get the rough week off his chest, if it's nothing too personal. Best best is probably move the conversation to something lighter. others will surely be in to add their 2 cents too. 2
mercuryshadow Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Admittedly, I'm not the best conversationalist, but I do know that you need to engage a little further to keep the convo going. In this instance, you could have inquired as to what was going on (i.e. why his week was rough). I'm not suggesting that you be nosy, but to seem concerned would help a person warm up to/ open up to you. You made it sound as if you were not concerned with the details and did not give him "permission" so to speak, to convey any further information.
Author napy666 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 I know they say just be yourself and take it easy and stuff but its like you say one thing and think its good then it turned out you killed it altogether hahaha. I did send him a reply just now with "I hope the remainder of this week leading into the weekend turns out better for you. I know you said yesturday that this week was rough on you how come? I wouldn't mind hearing about it maybe I could help."
Knoxpwns Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I know they say just be yourself and take it easy and stuff but its like you say one thing and think its good then it turned out you killed it altogether hahaha. I did send him a reply just now with "I hope the remainder of this week leading into the weekend turns out better for you. I know you said yesturday that this week was rough on you how come? I wouldn't mind hearing about it maybe I could help." If I was him, I would be happy to get a moment to just bitch it up hehe. If he's not in a super bad mood, or stupid, I hope he picks up "I hope the remainder of this week leading into the weekend turns out better for you." as "Hey, you should totally ask me out this weekend and we can forget about the ****ty week together." Here's to seeing weather or not he's oblivious
Author napy666 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 Hahahaha we will see IF he replies back. IF he does not reply back does that mean the obvious he isn't interested?
Knoxpwns Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Hahahaha we will see IF he replies back. IF he does not reply back does that mean the obvious he isn't interested? Probably But the fact that you seem to be a girl who is actually willing to go out of her way to talk to a guy (which apparently makes you a ****ing mythical creature, from my experience) means you won't have much of a problem finding more guys that are probably more interested than he
Author napy666 Posted August 22, 2013 Author Posted August 22, 2013 IF the convo does continue who should make the move to exchange phone numbers or asking out? And how do I know if it is to soon?
sweetkiwi Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 There's something called an open ended statement. It leaves room for a comment or reply. You could've asked him a question instead. Such as, "What happened?"........ "Why did it suck?"....... And the flirty- "Can I kiss it better?".... If the dude is into you he'll reply. Period. 1
Keenly Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 That would kind of feel like you just waved it off smugly with a " that sucks" which by itself just means " I don't really care to know why its bad"
letmoc Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 Or just relax and let it flow. If the week is bad enough he might not want to talk at all and it has nothing to do with his interest in you. Honey you need to RELAX a little. Finding a man should not be a full time job. 1
Treasa Posted August 22, 2013 Posted August 22, 2013 I'm sorry, but my gut says that he had already lost interested or decided no, and that's why he told you that he's having a rough week, possibly as an excuse to stop talking to you. I don't think you said anything wrong.
Author napy666 Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Well no word from him for today not yet anyway maybe later tonight.
snowflakes88 Posted August 23, 2013 Posted August 23, 2013 How soon til you expect him to move to be with you? 1
Author napy666 Posted August 23, 2013 Author Posted August 23, 2013 Its not the same guy. And this guy never wrote me back but he was on the site so I guess he was not interested.This sucks I really really really wanted this guy.
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